Post # 1
I never expected so many people to want to be my Maid/Matron of Honor I didnt think to much about it until all of a sudden everybody was asking me who was my Maid/Matron of Honor or have you choosen your Maid/Matron of Honor yet? seroiusly the next person to ask me I’m going to slap! I have 4 girls in my bridal party my Fiance sister my cousin my good friend who I grew up with and my best friend. The only thing is that my best friend and I have only been friends again for about 2 months we had a falling out but never really completely seperated. I couldnt imangine having anybody but her as my Maid/Matron of Honor but because of how our friendship ended everybody kinda of hates her which I hate. I have chosen her to be the Maid/Matron of Honor but the only person I’ve told is my mom and Fiance and he was not pleased she hurt him in the past. It was a very long stupid story. My question is how do I tell the rest of my bridal party and Mother-In-Law that shes who I picked? I always here people say oo its your wedding you make your choice and I understand that, but its easier said then done I hate when people are mad at me and I’ve always been a people pleaser which sucks I just dont want any drama about this because my best friend is the only girl in my bridal party who actually talks wedding with me she’s already from my something borrowed and told me that she would give it to whoever my Maid/Matron of Honor is shes not pushy or anything she doesnt care she just wants me to be happy. That is one of the main reasons I chose her she’s also awesome at party planning and I know I can count on her at anytime for anything. But still I dont want the entire bridal party to be mad at me 🙁
Post # 3
First of all, this was really hard to read, so sorry if I missed details.
Can you just not have a Maid/Matron of Honor and cut all the drama? It’s so much easier to just delegate tasks than have to deal with this.
I also dont know why you would pick someone you have just reconciled with to be your Maid/Matron of Honor. My opinion has always been that the Maid/Matron of Honor is the one person in your life who is constant and true. For me, that’s my sister. We may fight, but we still love eachother and I know that she will always be around. Even if she was a good friend before, she obviously did something major to you in the past to deserve your FI’s and friend’s distrust.
Post # 4
Why would everyone be mad at you? You guys had a fallen out and has since moved passed it and everyone else should too. Just tell them and if they get mad they will get over it eventually.
Post # 5
It’s YOUR WEDDING so you do what you want and everyone’s just going to have to get over it. I recently had to break the news to a good friend (and would’ve been potential bridesmaid) that the date I booked at my dream venue conflicts with another wedding she committed to. She was really upset, but I had to make the choice to either book that date or have to push out my wedding!So lesson learned that a lot of things will come up that will inconvenience or upset others, but we can’t please everyone!
On another note, I’m not having a Maid/Matron of Honor – just several BMs and they are all graciously offering to help as much as they can (one girl offered to coordinate the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and set up shopping trips, another one offered to plan my weekend-destination bachelorette, etc). I personally think the Maid/Matron of Honor label puts too much pressure on a girl and naturally, the most proactive, capable party planner-type will step up anyway.
Post # 6
i think you should still have her as Maid/Matron of Honor, she is the most supportive one of your bridesmaids it sounds like, so she deserves the title. just sit everyone down and explain to them who you chose, and your reasons for it, if they care about you they shouldn’t make a huge deal out of it, and realise it’s your wedding not theirs. she sounds like she will be a great Maid/Matron of Honor 🙂