(Closed) Choosing the ring

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Should you help with the engagement ring?
    Help him pick out the ring : (66 votes)
    78 %
    Let him choose the ring : (19 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    429 posts
    Helper bee

    @Silverblade: I would definitely chose the ring ! I would never risk the chance of not liking what he chose.  

    Post # 4
    995 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I would prefer something in the middle which is what we did. He knew the shape I wanted, my size and the color of gold I prefer. This way I was still surprised but I had a ring that he knew I would love!

    Post # 5
    714 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My husband picked out my ring.  I would occasionally point out rings styles that I liked, but he ultimately shopped for it, bought it, and surprised me with it…which I liked.  And I think he did a fantastic job!

    Post # 6
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We were kind of in the middle, and it worked for us.  We went to a jewelery store once, and I showed him a few things I wasn’t really into as well as pointing out a few styles I thought might work online.  Then he took it from there. 


    Post # 7
    293 posts
    Helper bee

    My SO has made it very clear that he wants to pick out my ring.  By himself.  But, we talk about it, and he knows my style.   I really want a halo ring, and we were at a restaurant and the hostess had one that I loved, and now we call that place, “the restauarant with the good ring” LOL 

    He also took out the jewerly section of some store in the Sunday Times and said, “ok, I’m gonna tell you what I think you’d like on this page, and you tell me if I’m right”.  He was right.  100%

    So, I feel good about it.  I think we are a LONG way off from getting engaged, but when the time comes, I know he’ll pick out something amazing, and I like to be surprised.

    Post # 8
    667 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would like to at least go ring shopping and show him what I really like. For example, I like white gold with a round stone and can try some different styles on so he can see which ones I like the best and then go back and choose it without me. This way, I get to have some input but it’s still a surprise since he is making the final decision.

    Post # 9
    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I would let him pick the ring.. I think my fiance knows me well enough to know what I would like… He knew I like lots of bling and he definitely delivered! Plus it’s more meaningful, considering that he spend all that time trying to find the perfect ring for you. 

    Post # 10
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @chesseplease: I would help him know what kind of ring Im looking for (I dont want a diamond so I feel it was important to let him know, for when he starts looking!)

    In that sense, if you have a particular thing in mind as far as preference goes, then I think you should let him know; in the end he still makes the decision on the final ring that way!

    Post # 11
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I chose my ring and honestly, I wouldn’t have had it any other way. I’m the one who is going to be wearing it for the rest of my life, so we both felt that it was crutial that I was involved in the selection.

    Post # 12
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I gave him a few ideas of what i like… but he’s paying for it, and I’m sure i’ll love it.  I love pretty much everything else he’s ever picked out!

    Post # 13
    3788 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    As a bride who did help pick her ring, I have to say that I wish I would have just let him do it. (The grass is always greener on the other side, right?) He had me go shopping with me him because he wanted me to pick something to my taste, but honestly, I so badly wanted him to pick something as a gift from his heart that I ended up picking a ring I don’t love solely because it was the only one that got a positive reaction from him. Bride fail. Picking your own has its pros if you actually are set on a specific style and stick to it, but I do think it loses a little bit of sentimentality. I think I probably should have just given him pictures of various styles I like and sent him forth on his own, but live and learn. If you are at all torn, that might be a good compromise so that you get to influence the style but he gets to surprise you. I am sure that in the end you’ll be thrilled no matter what; I know I am just glad to be engagd to him.

    Post # 14
    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    My Fiance researched and designed my ring. By doing research he knew exactly what paperwork and qualities he wanted in my ring. It was a complete surprise opening the box, and I love my ring. I stare at it all the time.


    EDIT: I wanted him to pick out the ring. He has better taste than I do and I knew he would be so happy picking out the ring. We looked at rings together so I could get sized and to get information on diamonds.

    Post # 15
    1056 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Both…I would like to pick so I know what I want/would like.  But then would want him to take it from there and choose.  That didn’t happen in my case but at least I know I will love the ring when I get it which is important since I have to wear it everyday!

    Post # 16
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    This gets asked so often lol!

    I chose my ring with my boyfriend. We both had a lot of fun shopping for it and it took a lot of stress out of getting engaged for both of us. Neither of us had to worry if it would be the right ring, and I was able to feel more involved. I am so happy we did it that way!

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