Choosing to not have a bridal party

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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Honey bee

karkar1234 :  For my civil wedding, we are not having any. But for our church wedding, we probably will have some.

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

My ex-friend didn’t have one because her wedding was in a different country, so hardly anyone was going to be able to attend anyway. Instead we all just threw her a bachelorette party in New Orleans with a small brunch shower the next morning and she gave us all a thank you gift before leaving. Basically we did all the pre-wedding stuff without actually doing the wedding stuff lol. We all stayed up to watch her wedding via livestream online.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

pdg44 :  We didn’t have anyone. I don’t have a sister either, and my husband has two brothers and more close friends than I do. So we skipped the wedding party entirely, and honestly it was so nice. It made things much easier in terms of planning, getting ready, costs (for both us and the guests) – especially since it was a destination wedding in Vermont, and stress (lack thereof). We had a close friend act as the officiant and that was it. Definitely would recommend it.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I didn’t have a bridal party and it all worked out great. My sister defaulted to a maid of honor-type role and my closest friends got together with me the night before and while I got ready anyway. I was a little worried because I had been a bridesmaid for one of them, but I talked to her about it and she understood. My husband has like 4-5 female relatives who would have expected to be included, plus I have a bunch of groups of friends who I’d have felt bad splitting up, so this plan worked best for me.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

I’m planning to have no bridesmaids or just one – my cousin who I’m very close to like a sister. Same reason as you, I would have to have 4-5 bridesmaids if I asked all my close gfs and that’s too many for me.

I’m thinking I’ll more likely have none. And invite my cousin and the two mums to get ready with me. I would organise a nice day out with my close gfs and cousin the day before. 

 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2019 - City, State

We are also choosing to not have a bridal party. It makes everything much less stressful for us. I think your plan sounds like a good one! 

Post # 22
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Blushing bee

I’m happy I didn’t know everything about how weddings are “supposed” to be when I planned mine. Otherwise it would have been a lot bigger, more expensive, and stressful. My only brother was my man of honour, he wore a suit he already owned. No colour coordination, no parties or showers or rehearsals, just everyone showing up for a simple ceremony and nice dinner. I loved it. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee

I’m not having a Bridal Party because I’m not having a regular wedding. But if I was, I’d most likely just have my daughter as Maid/Matron of Honor and that’s it. I do have two friends that I talk to more than the others that I’d say are my BFFs. And I know that would cause hurt feelings among my other friends and I wouldn’t want to be pressured to add others I don’t really want to if I started adding friends. For your other question, if I was a possible Bridesmaid or Best Man and the bride decided not to have a Bridal Party I’d be thrilled. I really do not like being in weddings. 

Post # 24
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Busy bee

pdg44 :  At a friend of mine’s wedding the groom called all his guys “best men” instead of having one and the rest groomsmen. You do still have to decide who’s standing next to you though so even though they don’t have the title it still can get a bit dodgey that way. 

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Although I will have my bridal party, this is your wedding, do what you think is good for you!

Post # 26
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Helper bee

A bridal party can be great, and it can also be incredibly stressful and rip apart friendships, particularly if they all live out of state and you have expectations that they can’t fulfil or don’t have the personality/time/money to fulfill.  You’re probably doing yourself a favor by not having one.

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