Post # 1
There are a few books about how to choose the gender of your child. We want two kids, and in my ideal world, I would like to have a boy, then a girl. I would love any kids regardless.
Have you ever considered this? Done it? Been successful? What would you try for? My concern would be if you were trying for one and got the other, would you be disappointed? Also, it could delay conceiving.
Post # 3
Never considered it. Whatever I end up with is exactly what, for whatever reason, I’m supposed to have.
Post # 4
@guitargirl: I think its fun to try for a certain gender. I would not take it too seriously but I have heard that there are things that you can do to increase the chances of having a certain gender. I would NOT be disappointed for a healthy bouncing baby of either gender. A healthy baby is a blessing.
Post # 5
With our first one I never considered it because like a PP we are adamant that any healthy baby is great. Truly.
However, I’m kinda old fashioned and in my husband’s side there has yet to be a boy. There is likely only 1 other male cousin that may try for another baby. So it’s up to us, likely, to continue the generation on. Soo…if that became the case I might subconsciously self pressure to actively try for a boy.
Who knows, we’ll see when we’re ready for #2. Worrying about #1 joining our family now. 😀
Post # 6
There are lots of methods and books about trying to sway the gender of your child by conceiving at certain times of the month, or changing your vagina’s pH, however none of these methods are proven to work and some of them are dangerous and can cause pevlic inflammatory disease which can lead to infertility if untreated. Please be careful when considering these natural swaying techniques, especially ones that list douching as a method.
Post # 7
oh god no. I was personally talking about like BD at certain times or certain positions.
Post # 8
@regberadaisy: Well thats fine then ! I always worry about when people bring up these methods because I know someone who tried to get a girl (after three boys) by using a douching technique she found online and ended up with PID (luckily she didnt suffer any infertility problems). Theres no harm in using the dates if you really want to, but just be prepared that it doesnt necessarily always work!
Post # 9
DH’s Mom believes in the shettles method and believes that she had her daughter by that (after having 2 boys).
We’ve talked about trying it to aim for a girl, but I’d be happy either way. Guess we will see when we start TTCing later this year.
Post # 10
@guitargirl: My mom did this and then came my brother. My dad really wanted a boy and after 2 girls they were not up to taking any chances. Turned out if they went natural again I’d have another sister cause my mom’s uterus’ pH was too alcaline to let Y sperm (male) survive. The doctor gave her a douche treatment (supervised by him of course) and.. well it worked.
Post # 11
We are not TTC yet, but this reminds me of the How I Met Your Mother episode where Marshall eats pickled herring then drops his balls in ice water because his dad told him that’s how he could get a boy, meanwhile Lily was eating lemons to try to get a girl… haha
Post # 12
I hear of how different positions, different times of the month make you have a boy/girl whatever. I would totally do that for fun because we also want to have boys and then a girl. But i would never go to the extreme of going to the dr and doing invitro and all of that to try and get one sex vs another. Ah!
Post # 13
I don’t trust anything! Even ultrasounds can be wrong about gender lol
This would be great hundreds of years ago in Royalty when they wanted a boy pass the throne on, but today Id just like something healthy!
Post # 14
I’m actually really, really glad that I DON’T have a choice in the matter- I really don’t have a preference because I see so many positives for any combination that I coudln’t choose. But, if say, H were the last male in his family to have a baby, I guess I would try the thing about BDing at a certain time in relation to ovulation (there is a bit in TCOYF about that but I doubt it is all that accurate anyway 🙂
Luckily, my brother, who was the last male in the family, had a baby boy so our name lives on, just like royalty.
Post # 15
If we don’t have a boy this go round then we’ll look into some of the “swaying” methods for next time. There’s only 1 boy on DH’s side to carry on the name so having a boy at some point is important to us.
Post # 16
We started with TCOYF, tracking my cycle for 6 months prior to TTC, ovulation tests, saliva ferning etc. We followed all of the Shettles steps exactly. If nothing else you get to know your body really really well.
We would like a large family, we hoped for a boy first and gave it a try with the Shettles method, and he is now 4 months old! That being said, we are so thankful to have a healthy baby and would have been happy however it turned out.