(Closed) Chose my bands but fiancé doesn"t like :( do you think it matters?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
574 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

I there’s too much going on with it.  My eye doesn’t know what to look at.

Post # 18
1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

It’s looking a bit busy.  Keep looking I’m sure you’ll find a blingy band that he likes too. 

Post # 19
2495 posts
Buzzing bee

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MissBec:  I’m not in love with it. I think it looks random because the style of the spacer ring (bezel) doesn’t match the style of your other rings. I wouldn’t rule out the idea of a sapphire spacer, but I would also look at other sapphire bands and present Fiance with more options. 

Post # 20
5934 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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MissBec:  Well personally I think it looks lovely! I LOVE stacks! Here’s how I feel about it… I think he should like it because YOU like it. You’re the one who has to wear it and look at it all day long.

Post # 21
2478 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

For my taste it is all too busy and there’s no sense of co-ordination. Although that said, I love mismatched rings. However, to work well, mismatched sets do need a certain coherance.

Would I want to buy a ring my Fiance disliked? Well no because I really think this is too symbolic an item for you not to be in agreement about. I also think that it’s not just about YOU. Sure, you’ll be wearing the ring but it’s a symbol of your togetherness. Or should be.

When is your wedding? Only unless it is imminent I’m sure you have time to shop for rings together and come up with something you both love that isn’t a total compromise.

Post # 23
11515 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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MissBec:  My DH would say that looks random and weird.  I like it.  I don’t think guys always have the same taste we do for these things and everyone has different tastes (I’ve seen some rings that I think are hideous – on men and women – but they clearly love them).

I don’t think it matters if your FH likes your band, but maybe you can compromise – does he like one better than the other?  Can you have just one as your wedding band and then add the third after to wear in  your stack?

My DH didn’t like my band originally, then I showed him what the other option were and he realized that what I had picked was definitely the best choice for my e-ring. 

Do you like your FH’s ring?  Do you care if you like it?  Consider that as well!

Post # 25
4367 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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MissBec:  I like them! Honestly, it doesn’t bother me what my FI’s ring were to look like, so I would not expect him to care what my wedding bands looked like either. He already had most of the say in the engagement ring, so I see my weddings bands as my chance to get that pop of color I wanted in my engagement ring. I say go with what you like. I like the look of it and, again, it is not he who has to wear it every day, it’s you.

Post # 26
7641 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

It’s quite busy for my taste, but if you like it that is all that matters.

Post # 27
943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

The best thing to do is go look at them together. I know that for me I need his opinion and I want him to like it. I feel that if there is something he doesn’t like about it eventually I will have that feeling too. I actually fell out of love with my original wedding band I bought, and luckily my Fiance came back to the store with me and helped me pick out a new one that I LOVE… I would never be able to choose without him. So just go together and see how it goes… maybe you find something you both like and he likes even better 🙂

Post # 28
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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MissBec:  I’d definitely want my husband to like my wedding ring.  I like the concept of sapphires in your set, but I definitely think the stack looks like too much…what about combining the two bands and getting one like this?  The best of both worlds. 


Post # 29
2583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

What I have noticed with my husband is that oftens times I will ask what he thinks of something (show him a picture, a shirt on a hanger, describe something, etc.) and he will say he doesn’t like it. Then get it anyway and it’s a completely different story once he sees it in action.

A good example is our bedding. We get new bedding about once every year or two and he has always put up a fight when I showed him something with a pattern or color. We have had a lot of plain brown, beige, and white bedding the last few years and I’ve grown sick of it. Well, without asking his opinion (since I knew what he’d say anyway) I went and bought a bright yellow bed set with a paisley pattern. Guess what? He loves it.

Same goes for my ring. I showed him a stock picture of what I wanted and he said that it looked too bulky and gaudy. We went to our jeweler, I put on the ring, and he loved it.

Sometimes people just need to see something person or in action to “get it” and honestly, while it would be nice if he likes your wedding ring, I really don’t think it’s mandatory as long as you really LOVE it. But hopefully he is like my husband and will love it when he sees it on you! 🙂

Post # 30
6139 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2007 - City, State

I think it looks a little off… Not sure why. I like stacks, but I don’t like the bands with your ring. How about a sapphire and diamond band? Than a plain one to stack, maybe plain with some design??? I just am not keen on that middle band with your ring. But it’s your rings, so for sure you get what you love!! I’d take the fiancée to see it in person! 

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