(Closed) Chose my bands but fiancé doesn"t like :( do you think it matters?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m personally not crazy about your stack because like a PP said, it’s a bit busy and your eye doesn’t know where to look.

To answer your question, I would want a band that DH liked.  He picked out my e-ring by himself (we did go to the store once and tried on rings so he knew what I liked) but we went shopping together for our wedding bands.  Fortunately he was pretty easy going and liked everything I tried on.  The rings look much different in person than they do in pictures and some rings I showed him on the internet that he wasn’t crazy about he liked much more once he saw them in person.

In your FI’s case, since he wants a long engagement maybe getting your bands this early may be a bit too much for him.  Give it some time and maybe reintroduce the idea in a few months and see if he feels the same way.

Post # 32
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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MissBec:  I chose an untraditional bridal set, I like unique and different. Definitely wouldn’t be what my Fiancee would have chosen for me on his own, but it fit me. I went with sapphire center stone, I am a bit untraditional. He ended up picking a wedding ring to match mine, white gold with a blue center. I would say, Go with what YOU love and feel is right. After all, you are going to be the one wearing it and have to see it everyday 🙂 & I love it.

Post # 33
937 posts
Busy bee

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MissBec:  He just doesn’t “get it”, most likely. He obviously doesn’t have the same taste in wedding bands to go with an engagement ring. Lol, that is perfectly fine. He doesn’t need to love them. I’m sure he’ll see the light in time. I think you should get the bands you want. After all, you need to wear them.

Post # 34
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

He doesn’t have to like it in my opinion. I personally don’t care for the ring DH chose for himself, but it’s his ring and he has to wear it on his hand. Jewelry is something the wearer has to be happy with.

Post # 35
320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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MissBec:  first your ring is very pretty and your stacking is nice and different. And No, no and no it does not matter. You are wearing it! And if the roles were reversed let him choose his ring too! My fiancé wants a camouflage wedding band to wear everyday and another one more fancy and I was like ok you’re wearing it. Because we are individuals and even though we are becoming united that doesn’t mean you let go of yourself and likes. I picked my enagagement ring and band because my fiancé too agreed that I’m wearing it and get what I love. 😉 

Post # 36
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My husband is a matchy matchy kind of guy, so he wouldn’t like it either. I like it, but I’m not a fan of the bezel style either, I’d choose a sapphire band more like one of these. 

Sorry those are so big. What doesn’t he like about it? Maybe you can find out what it is he doesn’t like and look together for a compromise. Good luck!!


Post # 37
841 posts
Busy bee

I really like the sapphire ring, but I just don’t think it goes with the other rings…

Post # 38
2317 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I like stacks but those three rings don’t go together at all- I’d try and get three that a more similar style wise and in the settings and I think he will like it better.


I wouldn’t wear a ring my Fiance hated

Post # 39
3080 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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MissBec:  Why doesn’t he like it? I like your bands, but maybe I am biased because they are similar to mine. (Actually on second look it isn’t similar, my top and bottom band are the same). I would just get it. It’s your wedding bands. Would you really care what your fiance got as his wedding band? 

And I sometimes feel like people on here are a little hypocritical. Because it’s ok for a girl not to like her engagement ring because her fiance got it for her and she has to learn to love it. But it’s not ok for a woman to pick out her own wedding bands because they both have to like it. Shouldn’t both people like everything then?

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