Post # 1
Is it ok to chose ur own engagement ring? I chose my own because I wanted a particular style and even though I trust my SO with all my heart and I showed him many times the style I wanted I still felt the need to see my ring before saying yes to it.
Post # 3
I think it depends on the couple 🙂 There is no right or wrong way.
I change my mind quite frequently, so even though I’m a tad bit of a control freak SO is going to custom make my ring with a jeweler and that will be that! I’m nervous, but I know he’ll do a great job and I’ll never regret choosing the wrong ring because he’ll have made the choice for me 🙂
Post # 4
@princesspink: I hope so cause I chose mine! Fi and I went shopping, I picked out my top 2. I didn’t know when the proposal would be, or which one he would pick, etc so it was till a surprise. I don’t see anything wrong in picking your ring, neither did he. He wanted me to be happy with it!
Post # 5
I chose my setting and fiance chose the diamond (although i said it had to be round for my setting). So it was a really good compromise for us. I could never have left choosing the setting up to him – I love him and trust him. But when it comes to fashion and such things….god knows what he would have come back with haha.
He has often said that himself as well!
Post # 6
I chose my setting long before I even thought of getting married haha! Well, I at least knew the designer that I wanted to create my ring. When we seriously starting talking about marriage we went to the jewelry store where his work is showcased and I was delighted to see that he had a new piece that just took my breath away! So I chose the setting and he collaborated with my mother and used her diamond (which had been left to me) for the center stone. I love that my ring combines my style and a little family history because it is my mother’s diamond. DH said my style varies too much so there was no way he’d pick a ring without my input.
Post # 7
I love how the poll is currently in favour of it being ok to choose our own rings. I chose my ring and love it!!! My husband was happy that I chose this symbol of our commitment, and that it was my favorite ring ever 🙂 He picked his wedding band as well.
I could not have let him pick my ring…there were too many factors to consider to make me happy (ex: large ring without having large stones, low profile, very secure center stone, vintage flare, etc.) I’m sooooo happy it worked out perfectly for us.
Post # 8
I don’t think it matters either way, but I voted that he should choose. Nothing against people who want to make sure they get what they want (it is a huge financial commitment as well), but I think it makes the entire experience of the actual proposal that much more intimate, surprising, and exciting to have that element of wonder and ambiguity associated with it. My FI chose my ring on his own, with no input from me whatsoever and I love it – Even if it weren’t exactly what I was invisioning, I’d still love it since he picked it and that would make it that much more special to me.
It’s important to remember that it’s not so much the ring itself that’s important, but what it symbolizes.
Post # 9
I made my SO go ring shopping with me because I was nervous for him to pick a ring I wouldn’t like. I chose 3 different rings for him to pick from (with one being my favorite) and after we got engaged I found out my SO had already bought my favorite ring before I made him take me shopping! So in the end I should have trusted that he knew what I would like, but it makes for a funny story now. I think it’s totally fine for girls to pick their own e-rings though!
Post # 10
I chose mine, and my then-FI/now-DH wanted me to choose it. He knows how picky I am, and there was no way he wanted to try to choose something on his own.
Post # 11
I think its tacky to pick your own. Let him have the momment of showing how much he knows you by picking the perfect ring. By you picking it, it shows you care too much about the ring. If you stay togehter together longer then 10 years, then thats the time to spend money and get the ring of your dreams but be pratical and dont break the bank.
Post # 12
@chrissyb464: I completely agree! I have heard and read about brides hating their engagement rings and making a huge deal about it. I loved that my FI picked my ring all on his own and I love my ring! My ring is beautiful and exactly what I would have wanted, but even if it wasn’t I would have loved it!
Post # 13
Yes it’s okay, but that doesn’t mean you have to.
I’m very fussy, had an exact style/design in my mind and couldn’t find anything I liked, let alone loved, so we had my engagement ring made – My BFF on the other hand is a non-fussy jewellery person and her FI bought her e-ring without any input from her and she loves it.
Post # 14
I picked mine, I’m glad I did because I think I put a lot more time into looking than FI would have. I’m sure I would have loved whatever he would have picked for me, but I was able to find something I really like which was also at an awesome price.
Post # 15
I sat by and watched my FI design my ring.
All the styles I thought I loved looked awful on my finger! So then I drew a blank, and after trying on over 100 rings, they all started to blend together – but he apparently paid attention and picked out the bits he liked from different rings and put it together. I saw the wax model and said yes to it because he actually put his heart into it. 🙂
I’m glad I got to rule out the rings I thought I liked because then I might have been a bit put-off by what he would have chosen by himself. I’m glad I go an input and think it’s perfectly fine to help choose your own ring!
Post # 16
I chose mine! I wanted one really specific detail, so it was probably for the best.