(Closed) Chowing on a serious piece of humble pie

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
Member
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I know that Fiance looks at ‘adult material’ and whilst it doesnt bother me, there have been a few times where I have had to raise my eyebrows and ask for a bit of an explanation before I went apesh!t on him. Once was because I came home from work, turned on my laptop and came face to face with some pretty dirty and pretty nasty stuff on what looked like a site for local hookups and one night stands… I questioned Fiance and he explained it was linked from another site (the site in question being Reddit… I have been caught out on there before so I did believe him). He said when he clicked on the link he didnt think it was going to be quite as graphic as it was. He said he got distracted and forgot it was open, hence why he didnt close it. He was lucky he was home when I saw it! He would have had some pretty nasty text messages otherwise!

Did he take it ok when you questioned him? I hope he was understanding!

Post # 5
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just apologize.He will forgive you.Your post made me laugh.I probably would have reacted the same way.

Post # 7
Member
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@StuporDuck:  if it was me a cuddle and a cup of tea would be enough to say sorry… But that’s ow we work. Just give him a hug, say your sorry and move on 🙂

Post # 8
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve so been there! Darling Husband uses that same site to download things, and the first time I saw the ads on it I might’ve gotten a bit upset until he explained. I mean, I was right there in the room! 🙂 Good that you guys are having a laugh about it, though!

Post # 10
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9687 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh, how I love this story and thank you so much for sharing.  Anytime I have an inkling of feeing “something’s wrong” between me and my Fiance I always revert to remembering he is the love of my life, I trust in his love completely and know he can trust in mine as well.  This reminds me of a scene from a movie I saw over the weekend (some indie movie, don’t remember the name):  a pregnant wife had found condoms in her husband’s briefcase and immediately jumped to the conclusion he was cheating.  She was lividly angry and hurt and confided to her best friend but didn’t confront him, she just started treating him rudely and coldly.  He had no clue. The next scene he was confiding to his own best friend that his co-workers hated him and it was getting him really down.  He said, “Yeah, they even put condoms in my briefcase!”  So he was an innocent husband wrongly accused and it damaged his marriage. 

Besides, if someone cheats it means there’s something wrong with them and there really is nothing you can do to stop them from cheating.  People will do what they want to do.  All the people who think that just because they have (think they have) all of their SO’s passwords, email account info, and checking cell phones, etc., are just kidding themselves.  A dedicated cheater knows exactly how to hide anything they want to hide.  They will, of course, give you their passwords and let you check their phone, because they purposely know how to hide things, so it’s really pointless to check behind someone.  It’s very easy to set up private email accounts that nobody would ever discover.  Only a stupid cheater would leave a trail for someone to find, or they may really not care too much if they get caught.  And some even want to get caught just so they can get out of the relationship.  You either trust someone.  Or you don’t.  If you don’t, get out of the relationship, it’s that simple.  Unless you can live with torturing yourself. 

Post # 11
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1714 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Lol, I watch a lot of videos and whatnot online, and some of the pop-ups ARE dodgy (trust me, I do NOT watch porn!). I keep getting adverts for ‘local hook-ups’ or whatnot, and then I get some about poker etc, even when I don’t even play it! 

Pop-ups are pop-ups lol.

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