- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 1992
Oh boy ladies. I worked myself into a bit of a frenzied panic earlier, and to my relief, it was over nothing! But now, I must apologize for it. . .
Once upon a time, there was a Bee who was sleeping on her husband’s lap while he was harvesting illegal videos from a pirate site. Let’s call her me… So, when I woke up from my nap, I was staring blankly ahead, trying to become fully alert. I wasn’t TRYING to see what I saw, but I saw my husband’s screen had no less than 3 browser tabs open, and he was toggling between them. One of them was for hornymatches.com!!! He noticed me waking up, and quickly darted out of that one.
I didn’t say anything at the time because I was so drowsy, plus I thought it could have been a pop-up. But then, time passed, and I thought of it.
1) He has a pop-up blocker!
2) He has a pop-up blocker!!!!
3) Why was it on the same session as all the other tabs, if it was a pop-up? Wouldn’t it be in its own window?
So today, he went to work, and several hours later, I remembered what I saw. It ate at me immensely. I went to the site to see what it was all about on my own computer. It was not good. It’s a site that matches singles or marrieds with others for discreet trysts, or open relationships. I felt sick. My sweet husband COULDN’T be looking at this garbage! While it might be ok for some couples, this is out of bounds for us.
Still thinking it might have been a pop-up on his laptop, I decided I would go see for myself, once and for all. If it was in his internet history on his laptop, that was explainable. If it was on his desktop PC on the otherhand, my theory was it was no mistake. Guess where it was? I felt like I was going to vomit!
So he came home from work an hour ago, and I couldn’t keep it to myself. I had to know for sure, one way or the other. Immediately he chuckles and calls it a pop-up, and says he doesn’t know why his laptop does such things. So I said, “your laptop has trouble keeping popups off your screen?” He said yes. I confirmed he meant ONLY his laptop before I asked, “So why would it be on your desktop browser history then?” His answer was the same, and he asked me to go into his office.
He went to his computer, and brought up the pirate video site, and nothing. I felt sicker. No pop ups to speak of. I thought he had purposefully undermined our vows. UNTIL…………………………… He clicked on the “top 100” downloaded videos which he uses for ideas on what to add to our video library, and BAM! There it is. It popped right up. Did the same thing on MY laptop too…. So…..
Now I have to apologize and make it up to him. I feel like an idiot. How do I say I’m sorry to that one? I’m not the type of woman to be shuffling around browser histories ordinarily, but after seeing that site just after waking up from a nap, I just couldn’t stand it. I had to know the “truth” before asking him about it, and it turns out what I thought was true WAS NOT!
Let this be a Public Service Announcement to all. Take what you see with a grain of salt, and if you can avoid checking up on your SO’s browsings, please do. Nothing good can come of it. I suspected as much in my 4.5 years with my Darling Husband, and now I know for sure.