(Closed) Christening VS First Birthday Parties

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I think both events should be just immediate family and a few very close friends if they are the god parents or whatever 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t feel like the Christening would even be a “party”. Shouldn’t it just be the parents, grandparents, and God parents of the baby attending the church service and then maybe have lunch back at your house? Maybe that’s just my thoughts though.

So naturally I think the 1st birthday should be the bigger “party”. However, since they don’t technically have friends yet, it will likely only be your close family and friends. It will be more of a party in the sense that he/she will “open” presents and there will be cake.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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socalgirl1689 :  Depends on which event you consider more important…personally I feel like both should be small and simple. In all honesty the 1st birthday party is more for the parents than the child, and some of these parties are insanely over the top.

I agree that I wouldn’t consider a Christening a party, but attending a church service with some sort of lunch after – be it at a restaurant or at your house.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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socalgirl1689 :  I have! But usually only at the church, I’ve never covered any party afterwards. I’ve photographed as the baby was being Christened, and then some family photos afterwards at the church.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Can you do both together?

I don’t have any bio kids of my own, but I have 8 nieces and nephews. Half of them got baptized at around 6 months and had a fairy big party and half combined both the baptism and first birthday together. My family usually invites our extended family (who lives in the same city) and friends/neighbors to both. And they allow the Godparents to invite guests as well. Usually only immediate family will go to the batism. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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socalgirl1689 :  It really depends but as a Catholic I would weigh more signifigance on the Christening/Baptism but might make it smaller so it could be more intimate and only include family and close friends. A birthday party is where I would invite next door neighbors and anyone I have a friendship with.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think practice varies with culture, religion and upbringing, so there is no one answer that will work for everyone. I was raised that christenings are for immediate family and godparents only and are not gift-giving occasions (other than a Bible from the godparents). I was also raised that birthdays for small children are for immediate family only, and not even a party, as such. Presents at dinner, that was it. I follow the same practices with my children.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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socalgirl1689 :  I HATE first birthday parties. Sorry, maybe I dont understand because I dont have a child but I think they are so obnoxious, idiotic and overdone. The kid has no idea it has a birthday. Why do parents spend a TON of money on this? Why does everyone try to make it so PINTEREST worthy. Why do we have to make it its own CAKE to watch it be smashed all over the place and make a huge mess? Such a freakin’ waste! Wow *CONGRATS* you have a child like every other freakin’ person in the world, lets throw a huge reception for a kid who has no idea whats going on! Whatever happened to inviting grandparents over for some cake and singing happy bday and everyone going home?

If you plan to do both – I’d do it as a combo. I’d be SO annoyed to have to attend (and gift) at two parties for the same kid.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

Let’s face it, these parties/events are for you, not your baby. It doesn’t know about, understand or care about either event. So which is most important to you?

 Personally I’d keep both small, immediate family, maybe some close friends. I’m with 

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weatherbug :  blunt as she is. I wouldn’t hire a photographer, order a fancy cake, any of it.  Obviously someone more religious than I am would have higher value on the christening though so those things might be more valuable to them.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

The only 1st birthdays I’ve been to have been immediate family. It was nice to sing happy birthday, do presents and catch up. Nothing fancy because they’re babies and don’t care 

Christenings are bigger in my circle. Friends and family come to church and then either have lunch after or a buffet in a local pub. No kid presents for christening but do cards or maybe a sentimental trinket that they will appreciate when they’re older.

No professional photos at any of them.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Wait. People have baby’s first birthday parties with the child as the focus? Shoot, I thought it was just an excuse for the parents to get together and drink while the single people and grandmas hold the baby.

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