(Closed) Christian Advice Only Please :)

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Post # 3
2971 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I understand completely! I’m maybe not the best person to be giving out advise about this right now, I’m not active in church anymore. But if you know in your heart of hearts that God exists and you have seen him active in your life then the doubts are from the devil. Whenever you have a doubt just tell him to bugger off, you know the truth and his little wispers of doubt arent going to work on you. The more you try and let go, and surrender to God, the more the devil is going to try an decieve you. You will have to work hard to fight him, he thinks that if you have small doubts you wont surrender yourself. Tell him he’s wrong. Hope that helps πŸ™‚

Post # 4
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@TxAggie15:  Aww! I think that’s very sweet of you!

I think everyone has those thoughts. I like to equate them to “What will I do if my husband leaves” thoughts.

I am 100% positive my husband is not going to leave me. That being said, it’s totally normal to think about the theoretical possibility.

If they are seriously troubling you, you could always have a talk with your spiritual advisor!

Post # 5
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I would look up anxiety coping mechanisms. I’m not religious (and I know you asked for religious advice), but I am anxious like you. I don’t think your problem is so much with God, it’s more to do with not being able to effectively manage your anxiety, which is pretty normal for a lot of people. I think once you get better at doing that, the spiritual stuff will come more easily and you’ll feel more relaxed all around.

Post # 6
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Charliejeorge:  /Totally agree with your points.

Dear TX girl.  it happens – seek scriptue.  I’ve found some of my most meaninful verses in times exactly as you are describing.  Please refer to one of my favorites:  Romans 5:1-11.  I know this will help.

Post # 7
1543 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Um you sound exactly like me…. like exactly… i’ve had all these thoughts in the past and still struggle with it now.

Doubt is normal, it shows you care enough to think about it.

First of all in the “what if there really isn’t heaven or God” question…. Think about it this way… okay so what if there isn’t? Whats the worst that happens? You feel comfort and ease your anxiety, you live your life with purpose and meaning, and then you die and nothing happens your just worm food, you never will even know. So what does it matter if your wrong?

But what if you’re right? What if God has a further plan for you and he’s got a place in heaven ready for you. What if he has a plan of purpose for you and you miss it all because your afraid.

Theres nothing you could have possibly done that God would EVER distance himself from you or that you’d in any way ever not be good enough to have a relationship with him. Every sin is bad and every sin makes us undeserving of God… but the coolest thing is your already forgiven all you have to do is repent. Jesus thinks your awesome, he paid the price for all your mistakes and he doesn’t care what you’ve done, he just wants you. 

You wanna know where all those feeling you have are from? Its from that mutual enemy we both share whose ultimate goal is to pull you away from God. and thats satan. I’ve litterally had the feeling like i’m stuck between a battle between God and Satan over me… and it was a similar feeling. Remember God doesn’t need you to be perfect, he just needs your heart and for you to try.

Lately i’ve also realized that I’ve taken back control of my life and i am still scared to truly give up to let God rule and reign supreme in my life. I don’t exactly know what it even means but i know i’ve royally screwed up my life when i leave myself in control. So now as some point every day i just tell God  to take control and i’m fully surrendered. I don’t know what it means to say yes but i know when i say no. God won’t let me forget it.

This verse has always helped me… i just repeat it over and over again and when i am worrying or anxious i pray. Throught that God has proved himself to be trustworthy over and over again so it gets easier and easier to trust him when you know he’ll handle it better then you ever could…

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

-phillipians 4:6-7


“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, and in all your ways submit to Him and he will make your paths straight”

-proverbs 3:5-6

Post # 8
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@TxAggie15:  This is so normal. I think every Christian has moments of doubt – think of Thomas! He doubted, and personally I think he was a hero for doing it. What has worked for me, in those moments, is to PRAY. The best way to get closer to God is to TALK to Him! We are His children, and He wants us in constant communication. Talk to Him in your car, in the shower, before you fall asleep – anytime you have something on your heart. The more you do that, the closer you’ll feel to Him. 

When you have questions, or doubts, turn to your Bible. Even try Googling! If you have a question, chances are someone else has had it, and it has already been answered with proof from scriptures. 

And when all else fails, remember that if you KNOW that Jesus dies on the cross for your past, present and future sins, that he was buried, and then rose from the dead up to Heaven – everything else is a given! 

Best of luck in your journey. If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to PM me. We can work through it together. God Bless!

Post # 9
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@TxAggie15:  I totally understand where you’re coming from!  I always have these thoughts and feel guilt when I do.  A couple resources that have helped put things back into perspective for me, and bring me closer to God are:

1) The Village Church.  It’s a Dallas based church with campuses all over DFW.  I don’t attend the actual services regularly, but I do listen to their sermons. You can listen to their sermons on their app The Village Church.  The main pastor, Matt Chandler, is awesome.  He’s also written a book, The Explicit Gospel, that is really helpful too.

2) Read The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis.  It’s basically letters from the Devil.  It’s crazy to read a book from the perspective of the Devil, but it helps to understand that these thoughts of doubt come from him.  As PP’s have mentioned.

I just wanted to share since these helped draw me closer to God.  Best of luck!

Post # 10
46 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

@TxAggie15:  I think you are my Weddingbee twin…you just described what I am constantly dealing with. 

Good news though, because God has been revealing to me that my fears are based on lies. And I am overcoming the fear and anxiety through His grace.

Here is the truth:

God chose to love you, to create, and adopt you.  None of us have ever earned God’s love, that’s why it’s called grace. And He is a GOOD Father.  Understanding that He is good, will be one of the keys to you letting go of your fears and anxieties.  It was for me.  I think we tend to hear that God is good so much that we take the phrase for granted without truly focusing on what that means.  God isn’t a formal Father figure who lays down rules and stands with fists clenched, arms folded, and eyes glaring as we constantly fail.  God is our Abba, our Daddy…the kind of dad that takes up his newborn child and knows at once that no matter how many times this child fails, He will always love and give His life for that child.  And you know, He did just that.  

God’s love is a perfect love, something that we don’t have the capacity to fully understand.  We tend to think of love from a human perspective…that love can be lost, that we can ruin love, that love has to be earned and maintained.  That’s not the kind of love God has for you.  You didn’t earn it, and so you can’t un-earn it.  You’re struggling with these issues, because His perfect love is really hard to understand.  So in our misunderstanding of His love, we make a lot of wrong assumptions and allow lies to replace truth in our minds.  The only way to understand God’s love is to accept it on faith.  There’s nothing else like it, nothing else to compare it to, and no way to analyze it (just a hunch, but I bet you over think things a lot, like me πŸ™‚ )

If you want to know the truth of God’s love, read 1 Corinthians 13.  Every word of that is what God has for you.  

We are sinners, God knows you are going to fail.  But, He’s not in Heaven waiting for you to fail, He’s by your side and in your heart smiling, arms outstretch, to help you up every time you fall.  Every. Single. Time.  How many times did Christ say to forgive someone?  Seventy times seven…essentially saying every time; forgive them every time and never stop.  God asks this of us, because this is how He forgives us.  If you are saved, you are covered by God’s grace and He will never let you go (ok, so we could get into some deep theology with that, but no matter if you are Calvinist, Armenian, or in between, by virtue of your desires, both camps would tell you that you have not lost salvation).

Truly, as sinners, we cannot change ourselves.  We can hardly even muster the desire to do what is right.  Every time I backslide, it’s because I’ve stopped investing in my relationship with God through prayer and scripture.  If you want freedom from this, those are 2 essential steps, because it is only through the choice of obedience that the desire to grow in Christ is allowed to take root and grow.  The rest involves recognizing the lies that Satan and the demonic are perpetuating in your head.  The only thing that makes these lies believable, is that you choose to believe them.  You can also choose to reject them and to believe the real truth…which is written for us in God’s word.  

Feel free to message me if you’d like to talk more about this.  I truly know what a burden you are carrying and how hard it is to reject those deeply in-grained lies.  And I just prayed for you, that God would help you understand the truth and that you’d receive freedom from all of this. God bless πŸ™‚

Post # 11
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@TxAggie15:  God is closer than a brother or a friend. Talk to him. Pray about it. It doesn’t have to be a prayer full of wonderful words just talk to him just as you would talk to a parent.

Put your problems in his hand and he will take care of it. As soon as the thoughts enter your mind, say a prayer and try to think of something else.

Don’t feel distant, God forgives. Ask him to help you to find back your way.

I’ll pray for ya!

Post # 12
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Love this thread; bumping to follow πŸ™‚ I’m almost waiting for @Brielle to step in and give some motherly advice πŸ™‚

Post # 13
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think that it is a commong problem. Really you need to be putting on your armour of God as it seems that Satan is targeting your weaknesses. You need the Helmet of Salvation, Girdle of Truth, the Shoes of Preparation of the Gospel, the Sword of the Spirit and the Breastplate of Righteousness. Sounds like you are undergoing Spiritual Warfare. I am reading a book called “Spiritual Warfare” by Derek Prince and I highly recommend it and it is very affordable, he also has some videos on youtube. I would also recommend buying “Battlefield of the Mind” by Joyce Meyer and watching her videos on youtube, they are so helpful.

Satan will attack the mind as the mind affects your actions. Praise God more often in prayer and hope for the promises that has given to you.


Post # 14
7437 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@TxAggie15:  I have definitely been where you are. I am also a worrier. Something that changed the way I think about my faith was when my pastor said “If you are worrying about your salvation and feeling like there is something you can do to save yourself, it’s because you are not letting Jesus be the cornerstone of your faith.” 

There is nothing we can do aside from accepting Christ that can save us. There is nothing we can do to make God love us less. Just remember that Jesus died for us when we were already sinners.

I would say just go to God in prayer about struggling with worries and doubts. He understands.

Post # 15
23 posts
  • Wedding: May 2009

I completely understand where you are coming from. I myself have had times when I asked How do I know that what the scriptures say is true.  If God is really there watching over me. 

But what it really all boils down to is faith & trust one of the most important avenues of communication is prayer (Zephaniah 2:3) We are encouraged to seek God which name is Jehovah & we will have an opportunity to be saved.

Well how do we do search for him?  That’s when prayer comes into play we have to be specific in our prayers to ask God to prove he’s real to us to prove he’s really there.  Do you know he actually wants to develop a relationship with us (James 4 :8) We are told to draw close to God & in return he will draw close to us. Also there are so many historical things that happen through history that go hand in hand with the Holy Bible.

It’s up to us to pay attention to our surroundings look at the creation how intelligent even the smallest insect as an ant to one of the largest like a whale we think of all their  fascinating abilities  who taught them that?  Think about yourself how your brain functions your senses your ability to see numerous amount of different shades &  colors those are just a few of the things that help remind us about our loving creator that he truly does exist. I hope this helps for more information on this subject you can visit http://www.jw.org

Post # 16
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

@TxAggie15:  i can def understand where you are coming from, i have had times where i have said, what if this isnt true? But then i think about my life how God has proven to me time and again that hes is there and hes MORE than aware of what is going on personally in my life that proves hes real.


There are a few things that i do to keep the thoughts of God fresh in my mind to help keep those thoughts away. First we need to continue building our faith, how i do this is by keeping God very active in my life, prayer, association,congergation meetings where ppl, imperfect ppl gather to keep building on there foundation of faith…interchange of encouragement is important. Gods word says in hebrews 10:24,25-and lets us consider eachother carefully for the purpose of sparking love and good deeds. Dont stop meeting together with other believers, which some people have gotten into the habit of doing. Instead, encourage eachother, especially as you see the day drawing near. (Common English Bible)  by doing these things this is how my prayers are answered. God speaks to us thru the pages of his word, so i try to keep a good spiritual routine.


Satan wants us to feel distant from God, he wants us to feel unworthy but if we are focusing on applying what we are learning and putting it into practice we will strengthen our relationship with him. We are sinful and are going to make mistakes and to realize that it’s our nature and we need to have this closer relationship with God and allow him to take over our lives because we cannot direct our own step Jeremiah 10:23.  As we start building faith thats how we can have the trust in him that we don’t doubt that he gonna guide us in the right way. Proverbs 3:5 says Trust in Jehovah with all your heart and do not lean upon your own  understanding. In all your ways take notice of him, and he himself will make your paths straight. And we must never forget the Greatest act of LOVE, in order for our sins to be forgiven he gave his ONLY begotten son… Faith in Jesus sacrifice and meditating on that greatest expression of love can helps us to push those feelings of unworthiness to the side and remember the words of John 3:17- for God sent forth his Son into the world not for him to judge the world but for the world to be saved through him..

Many faithful men and women have put faith in God, Abraham, Sarah, Hannah, Ruth, Ester, King David, and  most of all Jesus himself and we have the record of all their triumphs and stuggles so that we can also strengthen our faith, Romans  15:4 For all the things were written aforetime were written for our instruction, that through our endurance and the comfort from the scriptures we might have hope. Faith follows there things heard (Romans 10:17) so study Gods word, the deeper things so that you can fortify your faith pray for understanding and clarity. Search forthe answers to your questions and you will answers that fill you with joy and hope for Gods amazing plans for our future. πŸ™‚ 


Maybe you can start by studying Gods amazing qualities, if you think about what attracts people to friends or their mate was the person they were, so to draw close to God Get to know who he is , what he stands for what makes him rejoice? what makes him sad? Can you personally affect the almighty by your choices and actions? one thing that helped me was knowing God`s name and what it stands for, made me see him as a real person and coupled with his qualities has helped me have the best relationship possible!    (Psalms 83:18,Exodus 3:14) 


I hope this helps:-)  please feel free to pm me if you want to talk more…








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