Post # 1
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Bumble bee
So we have to have three meetings with our pastor, the first on is tomorrow, for premarital something or another. I guess this is normal?
Our preacher is a pretty laid back person, he’s a good guy and it’s a non denominational church. He will be marrying us outside of the church, but still in a christian ceremony.
We live together. We decided to stop having pre marital sex but it’s much easier living together bill wise and considering I lost my license and my Fiance is now the one driving me around everywhere.
So what should we expect with these meetings? I’m nervous about it…
Post # 3
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Helper bee
My fiance and I started premarital counseling in November (we’re long distance) and we have a total of five sessions to complete before June. Before we met with him, we had to fill out a questionnaire about our backgrounds, beliefs, etc. We also had to promise that we were not living together or having premarital sex.
In our first meeting, we just basically talked about how we met, our expectations for the wedding, and our plans for the future. We had to take Prepare/Enrich, which is an online marriage inventory before the next session.
The second session was about expectations and roles in marriage. What do I expect of him? What do I expect of myself? And vice versa. The third session was discussing our inventory results and seeing where we could grow.
And that’s it so far! Your pastor might take issue with the fact that you live together…or maybe not. Just be prepared to answer him if he asks!
Post # 4
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Newbee
When we met with my pastor, it was super extremely laid back. My fiance is in Afghanistan, so obviously the question of if we were living together was not brought up, since he has been gone 2 years, but we have lived together before. Basically, he gave us a packet of info for us to fill out (which we ended up not doing, whoops!) and went over that and a few things about marriage and christianity. He also asked us questions about our relationship such as our views on money, raising children, etc, roles.
I wouldn’t be nervous about it!
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