Christian Brides Who Waited – Any Regrets or Thoughts

posted 3 years ago in Christian
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

S-Bride :  We both waited, and no regrets.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Fiance and I are both Christians but neither of us waited. He doesn’t regret it, but I really regret having had sex with my ex-boyfriends before him. I don’t necessarily wish I’d waited for marriage to get intimate, I just wish I’d waited for Fiance.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

celticbride2017 :  I agree with you in that respect and opinion.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We waited and I have no regrets.  My husband had never been with anyone previously and neither had I.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

S-Bride :  neither of us waited and neither of us regrets it. Sure now in retorspective other partners weren’t nessecary but no regrets about not waiting.

Honestly if I married a male virgin I’d always be concerned about what might happen in a few years or during midlife crisis. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

We waited and had no regrets at all. Lots of anticipation for the wedding night and honestly it was a beautiful moment to share. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

We are both waiting for our wedding night 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

We waited and I’m so happy we did. It’s a cool thing to be the only person in the world who knows my Darling Husband in that way and vice versa. No regrets. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We waited, but to be honest, I was petrified. I’d struggled with tampons and gyncological exams previously, but EVERY SINGLE PERSON (medical professions included) insisted I wouldn’t have issues. Luckily, I did research to see if women could have such difficulties and learned about vagnismus, but it didn’t seem like something I could know I had unless I tried. A lot of the fears involved some medical testing I went through when I was real young, and I was hoping being with my husband would make me more comfortable. 

I did discuss our options with him, and he basically asked me what I preferred doing. I told him I wanted to try first before assuming I had a problem. He agreed. We even made sure that our wedding was over pretty early and gave ourselves two nights at the bed and breakfast than one. We  tried everything to reduce pressure and help things go smoothly.

It didn’t work. I was so filled with fear knowing that now I “had to” that my all the sexual tension between us ceased to exist. I was stressed out throughout my entire wedding. I couldn’t get into it our wedding night and tried to force it to happen anyway. The attempt was intensely painful. 

We continued to struggle andhad some disagreement about whether I should just get the treatment kit from vaginismus.com or go to the doctor. So getting into the doctor did cause some delays for treatment. 

We fully consummated our marriage about two months after we got married, but continued to struggle on and off. I got pregnant while still going through therapy. Things seemed better toward the end of the pregnancy and I considered myself fully recovered. After having my daughter, things were even better, but I’d still say “it” still tends to be uncomfortable enough to not be comfortable (significantly less pain), but it’s worn on us. My husband now has issues on his end due to his fear of hurting me and that tends to make things either not work or painful on my end. 

We’ve taken the pressure off ourselves to achieve it the “right way”. We let things go where they will, but we tend to be able to actually do it fully only every few months and maybe once or twice a year is it absolutely pain free.

I don’t regret waiting, but I don’t know if I so much waited as I used waiting as a way to avoid my fear.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I had fooled around in high school but never had sex. My dream was to wait until marriage and when I met my hubby it just kind of happened. It was the most painful awakward situation our first time. I really do wish we had waited for marriage

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