Christian Brides Who Waited – Any Regrets or Thoughts

posted 3 years ago in Christian
Post # 16
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Darling Husband doesn’t have faith and didn’t wait.

I wanted to be secure and as it happens he is my only, I’m glad I didn’t with anyone else but I did suffer guilt before engagement that I had given into temptation… 

Post # 17
11446 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I waited until I was married. My Darling Husband was married for 20 years prior to our marriage; however, he never touched me inappropriately while we were dating or engaged.

I can never regret obeying God.

ETA: I wanted to come back to this thread to note that I absolutely compromised beyond kissing in some relationships in my past, and I should not have done those things. I am very thankful that, by the time I met my Darling Husband, we were both committed to doing nothing beyond kissing prior to our wedding.

Post # 19
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Both of us did it before marriage with others and had deep regret…. but were commited to waiting until the wedding night. It was so special and I am so glad we did.

Post # 20
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2027

In some ways I wish we had waited. I think it would be special to say we’ve only experienced that with one another, HOWEVER…

I wonder if people who wait end up rushing into marriage (and potentially marrying the wrong person) just because they are so eager to be intimate (think: the Duggars). I also feel like waiting can make people SO obsessed with sex. The entire wedding becomes about “the first night together” instead of the rest of your lives together .

My ex and I broke up around the 3 year mark, but had we been saving ourselves for marriage, I wonder if we would have gotten married before things turned sour. 

I 100% respect those who save themselves for marriage, and believe it works out for the best 90% of the time. I just urge people not to rush into marriage for this reason, and to make sure you are guiding your choice with your heart, not your strong temptation for intimacy. 

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