(Closed) Christian ladies… What's your take on birth control? May be a little TMI

posted 5 years ago in Christian
  • poll: Is birth control/condoms etc a sin?
    Yes : (31 votes)
    8 %
    Maybe : (8 votes)
    2 %
    No : (305 votes)
    83 %
    I don't think so : (23 votes)
    6 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    0 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m on the fence about this one. I take birth control; the only thing that holds me back about it is the very real possibility of it basically causing miscarriages that we never even know about.

    Most (many?) christians don’t share my beliefs, but I think God gave mankind the knowledge to prevent us from over-populating the earth. Our land can only sustain so many people. Birth control could be God’s way of protecting us.

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think that as long as the birth control doesn’t produce an abortion, it is okay. 

    Post # 5
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    The Song of Solomon is an entire book of the Bible devoted to discussing love, and clearly sex – and yet there is no mention of children in it.  There are many conflicting views, but  I’d recommend The Contraception Guidebook: Options, Risks, and Answers for Christian Couples.  This will walk you through the many forms of birth control and medical implications, and give you the information to make a wise decision as a couple.


    Post # 8
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @kris325:  I’ve come to understand sin as somethidemo ore intricate than defying the 10 commandments… I’ve come to understand that it also includes rebellion… Going against God’s instruction or taking things in to our own hands. I was on BC years ago and stopped b/c I wasn’t comfortable with the potential side effects.

    My fiance and I have remained celibate so no need for it now but we also agreed to refrain from using it after we get married. We’ve left the baby business up to God and His timing. I know some people may think its careless but we realize that while babies are a blessing and handful, He also has plans. Just like we all have a purpose so will our children. So, if God has it in mind to give us a baby really soon after marriage or even later on for His purpose to be fulfilled so be it. 

    It is a little nerve wracking but I’m learning to trust that anything He brings about, He will bring us through. I’ve had too many instances where I took things in to my own hands for one reason or another and that never worked out well so I’m trying to rely on Him for guidance. 

    This may be the obvious question but have you guys prayed on it or discussed it with your pastor for some guidance?

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I think it depends on your religion.  The Jewish faith is actually pretty PRO- birth control and fairly pro “female sexual satisfaction”.  In fact… if you go old-style jewish orthodox you will find that there are mandates that a man must take pleasing his wife quite seriously.

    For some reason, Christianity, in particiular, has decided for whatever reason that sex is not to be “enjoyed”.  And I’m not sure why.  Especially since the Jewish faith…. which is the basis for the bible…. old testament and all….  doesn’t feel that way at all.

    Catholics, for sure, are against birth control and feel that sex should be for procreation only.  This is for a couple reasons that were logisitcally beneficial for the church.  If you have lots of kids… then the church has more members.

     

    I personally don’t believe that birth control is a sin, and I can’t think of anything sadder than viewing sex as something that is not be enjoyed…. or even relished.  But I think that you and you husband should discuss this with each other.  If religion is important to you, then you should also seek DIRECT and open counsel with your minister instead of going off what you have “heard”.

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee

    I believe that life begins at conception, so as long as the birth control (condoms, pill, etc…) prevents conception, in my book, you’re fine.

     

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I am in favor of it. The availability of birth control, which probably does not have an abortifacient effect, has been shown to contribute to or possibly even cause a drop in abortions. (source: http://www.foxnews.com/health/2012/10/05/study-free-birth-control-leads-to-fewer-abortions/ )

    Some women are not ready for children, others cannot afford them, and still others would not be fit mothers. All the time, I hear people telling those complaining about vet bills, expensive pet food, the cost of boarding, etc. that if one cannot afford to have a pet, one should not have one. Why should less stringent arguments apply to children, despite the fact that we know that things like nutritious food, adequate parental involvement, secure living situations and the like are much more likely to affect a child than an animal? Children are no longer mandatory, and I feel there should be more of an onus on parents to bring a child into the world only when at least minimally prepared. Furthermore, it’s going to be a lot easier to raise a child to be a good Christian when the mother isn’t working two jobs just to make ends meet. Birth control, whether it be an IUD, the Pill, or condoms, accomplishes this goal without the loss of human life.

    I would not personally have an abortion except in the case of rape or extreme mental or physical deformation. I don’t like abortion at all, and it isn’t the right choice for me. But until they present me with good, reliable science showing me proof that birth control causes babies that are already created to die, I am going to continue using birth control. And until premarital sex, sex within abusive or unstable households, and rape/incest situations cease to occur, I think others should have that option readily available to them as well. When both abortion and birth control cease to be available, bad things happen (source: http://www.nytimes.com/1990/06/24/magazine/romania-s-lost-children-a-photo-essay-by-james-nachtwey.html

    Post # 14
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I believe God created sexual intimacy for marriage and that he did so not only for reasons of procreation but also as a very powerful and pleasurable way for husbands and wives to bond with each other physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

    As a Christian, I was very committed to not having sex outside of a marriage relationship, and, much to my own surprise, I did not meet the right man until I was in my mid 40s.  Because I did not marry until I was 47, and my Darling Husband and I both are very open to receiving a baby from God, we have chosen not to use birth control.

    However, if I were much younger and had already had children, I’m really not sure how my Darling Husband and I would have chosen to handle this issue. I am not necessarily theologically opposed to using birth control (I should note that I am not Catholic); however, I also love knowing that the decision whether or not I will bear a child or children is entirely in the hands of God.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Pretty well every church is PRO birth control (contraception), except the Catholic Church. Since you’re in a “non denominational” church, that probably means some form of Protestant. And every Protestant church I’ve had any contact with (Anglican/Episcopalian, Methodist, Baptist, etc) supports contraception. Also as others have said, sex for pleasure is fine according to the Bible.

    I’ve used a variety of contraception methods since I married many years ago: The Pill, condoms+spermicide, condom alone, and then after we’d had kids my husband had a vasectomy.

    Post # 16
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    “Birth control” is a medication to help women who suffer for a variety of medical problems. It is a necessary medication just as much as it is a birth control.

     ETA: I think that in the end you will have to answer for your own sin to God. If birth control turns out to be sinful then you answer for it, no one else.  I think we need to be a little less judgmental as Christians and be more worried about our own sins. 

    And yes, I’m a born again Christian, I just get so irritated with some people’s ignorance. 

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