Post # 1
I will be getting married next month and I have been thinking about how much blood may be involved the first time my husband (also a virgin) and I make love. I’m scared that there will be so much bleeding that the bed may be stained. That will be embarrassing as we will be staying in a hotel. So, ladies, is there a lot of blood involved the first time? I would not want to lay on any hotel floor, but I don’t want to continue having anxiety about staining their bed either? Can anyone here give me some tips? All supportive, non-attacking tips are much appreciated.
Post # 3
@Mo2the: I didn’t bleed my first time. I didn’t even have pain. Fiance spent a lot of time with foreplay, and we took it slow. Just stay relaxed and you’ll be fine 🙂
Post # 4
My first time there was barely any blood and I didn’t notice it until I went to the bathroom after and wiped. It was just a tiny bit.
Honestly I don’t think it will be a big deal, but if you are worried you could put a towel down or something?
Post # 5
I never had that issue, but if you’re worried about it, place a towel down like the other girls said. Also, USE LUBE! it’ll make it less painful, of there were to be any pain and it’ll help prevent any tearing.
Post # 6
If you have ridden a bike, ridden a horse, done much in the way of athletics etc, you are very unlikely to bleed.
Even if you do, don’t worry about it in the hotel bed. I had a leakage problem on one stay in a hotel, which left blood spotting on the sheets. They just changed them for me and gave me fresh ones for the next day.
Post # 7
@Mo2the: it’s different for everyone. If this is causing anxiety, then just put a towel over the sheets.
Post # 8
to prevent heavy periods from staining the bed, put down a plastic bag then place a towel over the plastic bag. even if the blood gets through the towel, no way it’ll pass the plastic bag!
also, it’s a hotel bed. there’s been much worse that’s gone on there. you don’t wanna know what it’s already been stained with previously. ;P
Post # 9
@Mo2the: I didn’t bleed.
Pack a dark colored towel in your bag…or a dark colored sheet…and put it on the bed if you’re concerned.
Post # 10
This is a wonderful article about the myths surrounding virginity, and in particular the hymen, that was just published this week. I would strongly recommend reading it, and maybe looking up the youtube videos references in it. The tl;dr version is: the hymen is not all it’s cracked up to be, and first-time sex rarely involves much if any bleeding and/or pain.
It is entirely possible there will be no blood, especially if you have ever used tampons, had a gyn exam, or done sports or horseback riding. It’s also less likely if you guys go slow, with lots of foreplay, use lube, and you consciously relax your pelvic muscles and don’t tense up.
If there is any blood, it’s likely to be a very small amount, probably not even enough to get on the sheets. And even if it does- and even if your wedding night also corresponds with your heaviest menstrual cycle ever and you both skin your knees first and you take a break in the middle to messily eat toast with strawberry jam, I promise you, the hotel staff will have seen worse. Sheets getting bodily fluids and stains is an expected outcome of people using sheets, and the hotel won’t care. But you can certainly put down a towel (which is a nice touch too because it avoids deciding who sleeps in the wet spot).
Post # 12
As a pp has stated , your hymen may already be ruptured from athletic activity. It can be embarssing if there is bleeding. Put down a towel. You can even take an old one from home if you would be embarassed leaving a stain on the hotel towel.
If there is a stain, run the towel under cold water and scrub it with the bar of soap. Hot water will only set the stain.
You are still a month away from the wedding. Plenty of time to start fingering yourself with some lubrication. It will help you get used to the penetration. Make sure you get lots of foreplay so that you produce moisture before intercourse.
Post # 13
I’m a virgin too 🙂 congrats on waiting. From everything I’ve heard, I wouldn’t worry too much about it. just put a towel down just in case.
Also, I asked Bees for virgin wedding night advice a few months ago! They had so many great suggestions and were so helpful.
Here’s the link: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-want-to-hear-your-virgin-wedding-night-storiesadvice#axzz2smp9hqcw
Post # 14
Thank you all for the tips. I’ll pack a dark towel as many of you have suggested. You ladies have been helpful!
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Mo2the: Take your time and go slow because it’s going to be uncomfortable and it may even hurt a little. Most women I speak with didn’t have any blood their first time so I wouldn’t worry about it. Try to relax and definitely use lube (Astroglide is a cheap drug store brand you can try.) Also, make sure to pee after sex so that you are less likely to get a urinary tract infection (a.k.a. honeymooner’s disease); it’s also a good idea to shower or bathe after sex if you can.
Post # 16
@Bubblesmcgee: thank you very much for that. LoL…I’ll check out the link.