Post # 1
my cousin is getting married in june , he is christian and his Fiance too , his parents arent chistian or any of us , my family are very united , we always help each other , and we live close to each other , so we see each other every week , but they are also very opinionated , his parents , and my family are triying to make them change their mind and they want them to serve alcohol for the family and they want them to give his parents invitations to invite their friends because there is 150 people invited but the only people we know are the family , we are 10 including kids and the rest is people from their church ,they say isnt very polite to not give them inviations …?i think is going to be boring but it is my cousin wedding and if he invite me is because we want me to be there for his special day and also it is their wedding they have to do whatever they want ,it is his day , he is paying for most part of it , his parents and my parents are making the food but that is all , his Fiance is tired of all this but she doesnt say nothing because last time she said something , his parents were hurt and mad at her …. the family said that they are going to be in the ceremony and the reception until the food is serve and then they are going to leave because they will be nothing else to do , i find this rude ……… have you been to a christian wedding ? what they do at the reception ?? serve and then they are going to leave and find this rude
Post # 3
Jesus turned water into wine at a wedding, no less. And the Bible says ‘make joyful noise’. Just sayin’…
Post # 4
At a no alcohol/no music wedding, people talk to each other, give speeches and long winded well-wishes to the happy couple, and use sparkling grape juice for the toasts. Usually it’s shorter than a wedding reception that includes music and dancing. It’s more just a formal dinner with 100 people, then you go home.
Post # 5
@coure13: i’m trying to read this, but it’s such a block of text and run on sentences- comma after comma. i am not sure of what you want us to say but if they want a dry wedding then no big deal.
Post # 6
First, a lot of Christian weddings enjoy alcohol. The lack of alcohol makes it a dry wedding, not a Christian wedding.
Second, I’m not sure what’s going on here. The groom’s family is upset there will be no alcohol and is threatening to leave early? I don’t understand. The text and run ons make it very difficult to read what’s going on.
Either way, it’s the bride and groom’s preference on how they want to celebrate. If they don’t want alcohol then that’s their decision.
Post # 7
We are NOT Christians and we are NOT having alcohol or dancing at our wedding reception. We are having just light refreshments, punch, coffee, and cake afterwards. FH is a recovering alcoholic (sober for 18 years!) and I do not drink alcohol. We really don’t care if guests are “bored” or not. The ones that know and love us will be there for us.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@coure13: Usually the reception is considerably shorter because it is not expected to go on for hours and hours. If you are supportive of their relationship, then go and enjoy as much as you can, then leave when you feel it’s time to go. If not, then send your regrets and get over the fact that they have chosen to have a reception in line with their beliefs.
This is coming from a woman who LOVES her alcohol and dancing at weddings. But to each their own and it’s not fair to judge their beliefs or try to force them to throw a reception with activities that are against their beliefs.
Post # 9
@coure13: First of all, periods: They aren’t just for that time of month.
Secondly, there is no Christian prohibition against drinking alcohol. Just against being plastered. This is completely a societal construct.
Third, would it hurt someone to plug in an iPod? I wouldn’t necessarily mind no alsohol, but no music either?
It’s sad, but the fact of the matter is that if there is no music or alcohol, and the guests aren’t given alternate things to do (like a photobooth, magic show, board games) then people will leave earlier. They want to be entertained. A good host will either provide alternate activities, or schedule a shorter wedding.
Post # 10
I keep reading that her cousin and his Fiance are Christian, but no one else in the family is, and the groom/bride want to serve alcohol, but their non-Christian family doesn’t? And that the family wants extra invitations to invite other people to the wedding?
Post # 11
As others have pointed out, there is no ban in Christianity against alcohol. A “Christian” wedding is not the same as an “alcohol free” one. Just keep religion out of the equation – besides, it’s not your wedding, not your decision, and really, not your business how your cousin and his fiance design their event. Just go, and celebrate with them!
Post # 12
We’re Christian & we didn’t have alcohol at our wedding. The majority of our guests were friends from church b/c that’s who we knew & saw on a weekly, sometime more than once a week AND we did brunch so we didn’t have to worry about alot of dancing. We played music through dinner (very screened playlist) and then did some fun songs to dance too (mainly Darling Husband and I and some close friends). Our families, especially DH’s ALL drink and I’m sure were put off by not having alcohol BUT it wasn’t their wedding and since it was ours it was up to us to decide what was & wasn’t okay for the environment we created and alcohol wasn’t part of that.
Yes, the reception was shorter but tbh Darling Husband & I were more than happy to get on our way to our honeymoon. 😉
The family is wrong for expecting the bride & groom to go against something they don’t morally agree with, but sadly this isn’t uncommon when it comes to weddings & family… there is someone always thinking they should have a say in a day that in reality has nothing to do with them. *sigh*
It is true that a “Christian” wedding doesn’t necessarily mean an alcohol free one & some may not understand why it would be considering there are lots of “Christians” that still party, lie, cheat, steal, gossip, and hold unforgiveness, pride, etc. I hope your cousin & his soon to be wife stick to their guns & enjoy their big day. =)