Christian Woman Waiting IMPATIENTLY For a Ring

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

How old are you? Just curious because you said you were youngish. Also, to be honest the advice will be different if you are 21 vs 30

 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

First off, how old are you?

Have you sat down and had a timeline talk? Does he have things he wants to accomplish before getting engaged? Where are you in life with regards to things like career and schooling (if you went this route)?

Post # 4
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Busy bee

If he’s still living at home, is it because he doesn’t have a stable career?  I strongly suggest that both people be completely done with schooling and well into their adult lives before marriage.  A long engagement?  Sure.  But wait.  Wait to get married until you are both independently established.  This means no one lives with mom and dad, no one is in school, and both have had the burden of living on their own with adult bills, responsibilities, etc. for at least a year. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Echoing the how old are you question. I’m also curious where you’re both at in your careers. You mention that he still lives at home. There’s nothing wrong with that in this day and age, but if he’s not making a good salary, it could be a financial thing. No need to rush into things!

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I would think that if you just got a promise ring that an engagement ring is a long way off, like not on the radar at all. But I don’t know the two of you so I could be totally wrong, that’s just my initial thought. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Yeh, I echo the how old are you question. And the PP saying that if you just got a promise ring it sounds a good few years off. I’m sorry you are feeling impatient, me and my partner were together 5 years before he proposed and even he said it was the earliest he felt comfortable doing it. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

 Hey Bee, I agree with past posters, but I have my own ideas too. I am young, engaged, and still live with my parents. I am still in school, planning a wedding for next June, right before I start graduate school. My Fiance is out on his own, graduating this May and has a job lined up. It was verry important to me that we not move in together before a serious commitment was made (an engagment). This summer we will be moving in together, we have had all the serious talks and discussions that come along with intention to marry and fusing 2 lives into one… The point I’m making is that it doesn’t matter how young you are, sure there is always time, but if you know he’s the one, you’re confortable and mature in the relationship and stable in your lives. I don’t see the harm in asking him what he thinks/feels and what  timeline might look like for him. It will give you some peace of mind.

In the meantime, enjoy life, your promise ring, and relationship. Everything will work out how it’s supposed to. I was with my man for 4 years before he asked, just be patient. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Bring it up to him, like kinda nonchalantly and see what his reaction is

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