(Closed) Christians and porn!

posted 5 years ago in Christian
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Kacey23:  I feel that we all will have to answer for what we do one day, not just on porn but anything that is considered sinning, it is up to you to decide to go against God’s will and face that or not. 

I consider myself a Christian and watch porn, I also saw 50 Shades of Grey and live with my Fiance. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

The same pornography where they show sex between a man (and sometimes multiples) in an industry known for degrading and compromising women? The same industry where people have sex because they are paid? The same porn that usually shows sex as an act that does not usually involve people who are married? 

I am sure you know my answer by what I typed.  If you want to watch it – fine.  But, I don’t see how this is at all justifiable when thinking about what the Bible stands for.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I believe that porn in any and all shapes is wrong. It doesn’t matter if you are married and watch it with your spouse, in a way it would be kind of like defrauding your spouse from my Church’s perspective. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

I realize in advance that this will be highly controversial (based on other posts I’ve seen recently)… But Pope John Paul II said it best – that porn isn’t wrong because it shows too MUCH, it’s troubling because it shows too little of the person. For Christians (or not – you don’t need to be Christian to think porn is harmful), it comes down to that porn looks at people as objects to be viewed for their sexual pleasure, rather than people to be loved as a whole. It’s voyeuristic, and it says that I need something outside of my spouse to fulfill my sexual needs… Which I wouldon’t classify as cheating, but certainly not being totally faithful! I’m not comfortable with my SO gawking at other women say, if we were out to eat and he was oogling the waitress’ boobs… Why would I be okay with him getting off to other women in private?

Also, the reality that porn is highly addictive, easily escalates, and regular use actually rewires your brains chemical makeup! (If you want stats and background studies, I’d be happy to provide). This doesn’t even touch on the stats of how many women who do porn are actually sex trafficking victims, or the amount of drugs and alcohol that takes most porn actresses are on, or the Save-The-Date Cards and whatnot they’re exposed to, or the abuse that many are subject to… (which is all VERY well documented by people within and from outside the industry, so I can’t just be making this up). Why would I, Christian or not, support something like that? 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

My husband and I don’t even watch anything past rated PG-13. We know our weaknesses and intentionally try to guard our minds. My husband struggled with pornography and lust years ago and his convictions are that the images get burned into his brain. He says it makes him selfish and they’re like scars in his mind that are hard to remove. From his male point of view, men are more visual and I respect his convictions so I do the same. Our sex life is great though. I don’t think this is a question for random internet posters though because the term “Christian” is very broad these days. (We are nondenominational and bible-based).

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Kacey23:  From a Biblical standpoint sex outside of marriage is wrong, which is what porn certainly involves in its simplest form (there are a lot of other aspects of porn that are definitely against the Bible, but let’s just focus on the first most fundamental one). The actors are real people having sex in a way that is definitely sinful. Watching porn endorses and gives money to the production of it, and thus basically contributes to things that are sinful. 

If you want to watch porn that is up to you but yeah, it’s definitely sinful from a Christian perspective to enjoy watching sex that is outside of marriage, and be inadvertently giving money to the increase of it.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m an atheist and I’m totally against porn. Study after study show that watchibg porn desensitizes men to violence against women.

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Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I believe porn is a sin, and therefore avoid it at all costs.  It doesn’t matter that I’m married. There is no way I could ever believe that porn could in any way enhance the well being of my marriage, my home, etc.  My husband struggled with porn when younger and the unrealistic and unhealthy expectations it put on our sex life was harmful to our happiness.  We worked through it together and are stronger because of it, but I know my husband wishes it had never been an issue and deeply wishes that it will never be an issue for our future children.  Like,SurelyAsTheSunWillRise does, my husband and I do not watch anything above PG-13.  Having a wholesome and Christ centered home is something I strive for and I work hard to make it happen.  With all of that said, I truly believe sexual intimacy is something to be cherished, explored, and most definitely enjoyed with my husband….and enjoyed it is 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I’m a Christian, and I love porn. That being said, I make a huge effort to stick to “ethical porn”. There are a number of sites where I know the girls are paid well and treated fairly, and that everyone is engaging in consentual actions. I have several friends who work in the sex industry (in one way or another) and I’ve actually met with female porn director/sex educator Tristian Terramino, so I’m well aware of the issues and concerns that accompany porn. I also don’t think sex is ever a sin when it happens between two consenting adults. 

(Though, to be fair, I’m pretty much as far left as it’s possible to be, and I’ve never found it to conflict with my Christianity)

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

What two consenting adults (married or not married) do behind closed doors is their own business. Assuming their business is legal. They should not be condemned about what turns them on/gets them off. For the record, I was raised Catholic. I have been an atheist for 4-5 years. 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Question: Why would porn be problematic?

I can understand why it is problematic from a general ethical perspective (violence, exploitation of actors). I can also understand why it is problematic from an ideological perspective to some extent (because it makes people into perfect substitutes). However, I’m not entirely sure what the problem is from a specifically Christian perspective.

I certainly don’t buy into the idea that it makes people feel that their partner isn’t enough, or that it’s like cheating. I mean, I watch Johnny Depp on TV and think “mmmm… yum… the things I would do to him!” However, let’s get real. If JD actually turned up on my doorstep, the conversation would go a bit like this:

JD: Hi

Me: Hi

JD: So, can I come in?

Me: Er… why don’t you tell me what you want first?

JD: I want to whisk you off your feet and take you to a Carribean island where you can flounce around and have miraculously good hair…

Me: OK, I don’t know you, and you’re scaring me. Kindly GTF away from me right now, before I call the police.

I don’t think having the odd lustful thought about someone other than my partner means that he’s not enough, or that I’m cheating, or that I would actually want to do various things to JD, or anyone else, in real life. It’s fun because it isn’t related to reality in any way. Isn’t that the point?

EDIT: Just to be clear, I do not watch porn. I know it’s usually contrived, badly acted, and dull. I have no interest in watching people have sex. It’s like… you’re having sex. That’s… nice. Congratulations. I’m going away to have a cup of tea and a biscuit now.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

 

Kacey23:  I had heard there was a Pastor who was making videos marketed towards Christians that were meant to be educational/instructional for couples to have a more satisfying sex life. I remember the story started a lot of controversy at the time. I can’t really judge that having never seen it, but I do think that sex is too often a taboo topic in too many churches. I don’t think Christians should shy away from their sexuality, or experimenting with ways to please their spouse. Where the line is drawn between educational and pornographic is unclear to me though.

Your every day porn? Awful. I lived with a porn addict before I became a Christian. I didn’t think there was anything sexy about the videos. I think that too often porn ends up being damaging to relationships. There are people who end up legitimately addicted to it. 

fiver:  “I’m an atheist and I’m totally against porn. Study after study show that watchibg porn desensitizes men to violence against women.”

Given the history of exploitation and abuse that has occurred against women in that industry, it boggles my mind when I hear feminists being supportive of porn. If there is anything that is degrading to women and objectifies them, it’s porn!

 

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I was raised Catholic and would still consider myself religious, even though I don’t go to mass on a regular basis. I also live with my Fiance (and have done so before we became engaged) and we haven’t “waited” for marriage. So technically I live a pretty sinful life. Do I still consider myself a good Christian? Yeah, I think so.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying watching porn and having sex with someone you love and have been with for many years is the same thing. However, I think it sort of entails the same for your “quality” as a Christian.

Is watching porn compatible with the Bible? – No way!!!

Can you still be a good Christian? – Most definitely!

(Edit: It goes without saying that this only applies to legal porn, i.e. with adult actors having consensual sex!)

Personally, I don’t know what people see in porn. I haven’t seen a lot of it, but from what I’ve seen I can say that I think it’s unrealistic, boring, anti-feminist, not in the least erotic and it definitely has nothing to do with real life sexuality. Also the lack of proper storylines really turns me off (literature major here, haha). If you, however, like watching porn 24 hours a day, then I say all power to you! 😉

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