(Closed) Christians and porn!

posted 5 years ago in Christian
Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

futuredoctorbee:  You’re welcome! I wish more people understood this. The Christian perspective on marriage and sex is painted as rigid and prudish, but it’s all about upholding people’s dignity. That’s the noblest cause! You said you haven’t been to church in a while, so I want to invite you to come back. ๐Ÿ™‚ Everyone has beef with this or that teaching of the church, or gets busy with daily life (and I assume med school?). But really, don’t let yourself be tempted away from Christ. What will it merit you to gain the whole world but lose your soul?

And of course, keep reading and researching about this stuff. I recommend looking up books by someone like Christopher West or Jason Evert.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zd2ue-36idc

This video might not be the best but it’s a start.

These guys have a lot of good information regarding preparing for a future marriage, too. ๐Ÿ™‚ Blessings!

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Kacey23:  I personally have never seen anything in the Bible to lead me to believe either is an issue. Anything that is truly judt sexual relations between a married couple is a beautiful thing to God. Just be careful with those passwords! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

Ladybug16:  Yes yes yes! I posted Matt Fradd’s website on the last page! I’m not a HUGE Christopher West fan (but his stuff does serve a good purpose), but Jason and Crystalina Evert +1000!!!! 

Post # 37
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Honey bee

I’ve been an agnostic for over 40 years and I find porn to be revolting. You don’t have to have strong religious beliefs, to have a moral backbone.

There was a recent thread on W/B about a woman catching her BF/FI? watching porn. He had promised her he would never to do it and she felt their relationship was violated. I only read some of the responses. She was pretty much chastized by most of the posters, who watch it, or their partner watches it, and they see no harm in it. Posters said some pretty nasty things, to the OP, called her names, and told her to “grow up!”.

It was really quite sad that someone started a thread to gain some advice and perspective, and she was completely ripped-down.

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Kacey23:  This is a terrible idea, just from the fact that technolgy is extremely vulnerable. It’s not worth the risk of being leaked/hacked/seen by a child or family member.

But objectively speaking, it’s still pornography. And as I said earlier, porn disconnects the lover and the beloved because there is no personal element, and sex can only be a gift when it is actively given and actively received. A couple watching porn together is not being stimulated by each other, they are being stimulated by a TV, by a third party of sorts. It’s counter to the nature of sex, which is for communion between people.

Also, I assume that a couple watching porn or taping themselves is an attempt to ‘spice things up.’ I’m really tired of hearing of this term. Cosmo and MTV and everything secular is screaming at us that we have to spice things up to keep him interested by having sex in 72 different positions with 100 different toys in all sorts of locations and manners, and now with 50 Shades, it’s only good sex when you’re slapping her around?? I admit that I’m a bit naive because I’m not married, but since when was making love to your spouse – just the two of you baring yourselves to each other without any media or other objects or the pressure to “perform” a certain way – when did that become not enough? How could I be dissatisfied when the person I love most deeply has given all of himself to me?

 

Post # 39
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Helper bee

dances123:  you don’t think porn is sex? Real question. 

 

futuredoctorbee:  God created sex for husband and wife it is not bad!! It is good! Getting off and watching other people(unmarried or not) is wrong.  getting off to anyone besides your partner is wrong. Thinking lustful thoughts is wrong, seeing naked people other than your s.O in a sexual way is wrong. Our society is so corrupt and hyper sexualized that not only is it impossible for most to see a human body in a non sexual way, but that they have no problem with it. Objectifying, ect. 

also to those who don’t think that it can hurt their marriage, I am sorry to tell you that you are wrong and I pray for you! It’s a sad truth. 

 

Tbh am I the only one who thinks it’s just sick that husband/wife think about having sex with other people? 

There a few thing s that I struggle with finding a clear answer to in the Bible, this is not one of them. Read one book and you are sure to find something on it. Seriously though of anyone wants verses I’ll get on that for you ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

futureMrs.Owens:  There is sex in porn, but porn and sex do not equal each other. In fact, the term “sex-positive” originated with pro-porn activists, who specifically wanted to paint anti-porn activists as somehow “anti-sex” or “sex-negative”–when in fact they are against porn specifically and not sex in general. They have been pretty successful with this strategy, unfortunately. Pretty much everyone thinks that if someone is against porn they are a prude or against sex–which is what I was responding to. 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

futuredoctorbee:  I think that’s a really interesting question!

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