Post # 92
My bro is having a huge wedding in May, and I’m a bridesmaid, so I don’t count talking about my brother’s wedding (or anyone else’s wedding) as violating the Xmas Challenge. I can’t just ignore the fact that other weddings exist and are going on around us. Need to talk about them for scheduling reasons.
Post # 93
I’m in until New Year’s! I’ve been doing a good job not talking about it but it’s sooooo hard to do!
Post # 94
So, for you Christmas challenge ladies, have your guys asked what you want for Christmas? Mine has not, which is a little out of character, so I’m hoping that means good things for a possible Christmas proposal!
I’ve had some mini-fails, but I’m doing well with the main idea of laying off engagement talk and being more relaxed about the whole thing. It helps that I now know that he’s going shopping! We ended up looking at rings on Black Friday, and he wanted me to give him my list of requirements/wants/”this would be nice” criteria in a ring. Also, the attempts to chill out are helping – he commented that I seem happier lately, and that he was feeling stressed about it before but now that I’ve calmed down he feels a lot better about the whole thing. So keep strong, it helps!
Post # 95
I’m a little worried about the Christmas Challenge. Besides when he has brought it up or when we have been talking about buying the house (which goes hand-in-hand with proposal as i will not be moving in until I have a ring), I have been pretty good about not bringing it up. We are close to buying a house, or if we do not buy that one then we will be looking at building one shortly thereafter. He said that once we have the house he will only need a couple more months to save, but I know if we get the house before Cmas that I am immediately going to be thinking every box could be a ring. I KNOW the whole point of the Christmas Challenge is to NOT do this, but I can’t help it. I shouldn’t even be thinking this because I feel it might jinx us and then we may not get the house, but either way I know we are getting really close and my patience cannot last much longer!! Knowing that I am close has relaxed me a little, but I know when the gifts start flying, my brain will be going crazy! I don’t think he would give it to me as a Christmas gift, but it could be around that time (he tries to be sneaky). More than likely it won’t happen for a few more months, but of course my mind is going to hope it happens sooner! Agh!!! I just need to give my brain a rest!!!!
Post # 96
Ughhh I am so close to talking to him because I thought it was going to happen this weekend.. 🙁 we went snowmobiling with his siter and her bf… it was a lot of fun but a little disappointing….i guess I had my hopes up. He has mentioned.. in different words… if it would be weird if all i got for christmas was a ring…. but i dont know if it will really happen and when because he told me a long time ago it would happen early october, late november! I am just so frustrated, why do they make us wait?? It is complete torture. I just had to come on here to keep myself from talking to him and ruining something. Gosh I hope I can stay strong!
Post # 97
I wish I’d have seen this challenge before I had a few drinks the other night and pretty much ruined the whole thing!
I was expecting a christmas proposal, and after we’d had a few drinks he said that “he had something to talk about but couldnt talk to me about it” so I thought it was the proposal and then he spilled the beans and said “I took your ring in for some alterations!” and my immediate thought was “oh god, will you get it back before christmas!?” so i said “oh, well how long will that take” and he said “i dont know, i didn’t ask” and i said “so it might not be back before christmas” and he said “yeah i guess not”…and I said “or new years” and he said “yeah im not sure, i just didn’t ask”…bah! I started crying.
The next morning I came to the sinking realization that christmas and new years would suck and I didn’t want a proposal on our anniversary (feb. 4th) so I said “im thinking of taking a trip the first week of february” and he’s like “ok” and i was like “so it doesn’t matter that the ring wont be done by christmas, and you don’t care what we do for new years and its ok that im gone for our anniversary? and he’s like “huh?” and im like “stop playing games with me!”
Then he was acting sad and I said “whats wrong” and he said nothing and i said “come on, you can talk to me” so he said “well i was planning on proposing before christmas, i didnt realize that taking it in to have stuff done might take too long…i waited too long to bring it in” and then I realized not only that I had made him feel like crap when i wasnt even sure– it could be done by christmas I don’t know why i speculated that it wouldnt, and that I basically forced out of him when he was planning on doing it and I just feel like crap because I totally wanted a christmas proposal and doing it before christmas would have caught me off guard and been perfect and I now I don’t know what will happen but I’m an idiot.
Post # 98
I am definitely doing the Christmas Challenge… in fact I think of it as the Anniversary Challenge since our anniversary is in April. So I am trying to keep my mouth shut until then.