(Closed) Christmas dilemma. Am I being a big baby? (Long)

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I might be a little bit upset, but you kind of have to adjust to the situation.  I don’t think Christmas is “ruined” by any means.  YOu can still go to the station and spend it with him. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I would be upset too! And I would encourage him to work Christmas Eve rather than Christmas. I wouldn’t want to spend Christmas day alone, but I wouldn’t care so much about Christmas Eve. And if he does have to go to work on Christmas, I would pack up Christmas dinner and bring it to him, if possible. Try to make the best of it.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would be upset too, because he is changing plans at basically the last minute.

But why do you have to be alone? Can’t you go to your moms house and spend Xmas with her?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it is considerate of him to ask you what you prefer. You are not being a big baby for wanting to spend both days but I think there should be an understanding that the money he is making on over time will essentially benefit the both of you. 

Suggestion: pick a day in the future, that he can take off, and make a special day out of it. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  I’d be upset, too. It’s not like he’s being assigned work; he’s volunteerng to do extra work when he would have had the day off. I’m all for industriousness & making money when you can, but it’s also important to spend time together, especially around the holidays. This sounds a little work-aholic to me. It’s only 2 days that he’d be off, anyway — he should just enjoy it and relax with you.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m in healthcare so I usually have to work a major holiday.  We’ve adjusted to it and it sounds like you’ll have to as well.  Especially since you said your Fiance doesn’t like the holidays anyway, just go to the station and spend time with him.

Post # 10
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901 posts
Busy bee

@country chic:  Yeah, welcome to being married to an EMT/cop/fire fighter/doctor/nurse/other hospital worker/and the list goes on…

Better get used to it!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

why don’t you go visit your mom still so you aren’t alone?

It sucks but I mean I’d totally work the holiday if I got paid overtime for it and would want Fiance to, also.  We get to spend every other day together, the holidays are just one day.  But, that’s just us. You guys will have tons of other holidays to celebrate together – this is just one year.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I know it is hard but he is an EMT and therefore will always have to deal with these issues.

Be proud of the work he does and practice screaming quietly in the closet sometimes.

I know he volunteered for this somewhat but when you have 24×7 shifts to cover 365 it is paying it forward for a time in your future where he will get off 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’d probably be a little upset…mostly disappointed…but if he’s a EMT, you should know that he’s going to have to work some, if not most, Holidays…even if he’s offering to help somebody out. If he doesn’t like Holidays already, you’re not going to get him to like them right away. It’s probably going to take him time to ‘get it’. See if he will work Christmas Eve, but if he works Christmas Day, please don’t let it ruin your Holiday. Take him a stocking to work, have a little party with him and the other guys…make it special! 

We had to go out of town last Christmas to visit my fiance’s dying grandfather…it was my 1st Christmas away from home…in 30 years…I was borderline miserable b/c nobody was really in a celebrating mood…the tree was a tiny tabletop thing…I cried on  Christmas Eve and at least 3 times on Christmas Day and refused to answer the phone when my family called b/c I didn’t want to cry to them. I regret it and wish that I had been proactive in making it a fun day!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  Can you go to your moms without him? Is it a question of transport, or can you drive yourself? I don’t see spending the holiday alone if you can go to your moms rather than sitting around the house feeling sad?

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