- 12 months ago
I woke up at about 8am to a text from my Brother-in-Law saying: “Hey, just FYI your sister is extremely hormonal today. Watch out when you come over!”. He sent it jokingly (or I suppose half-jokingly). So, at about 12pm I head over to their house, with my loaded mashed-potatoes in hand. I knock on the door and my sister answers and I can tell she has been crying. I immediately ask what is wrong and she says that her and my Mom have been fighting and she’s upset. I give her a big hug and kiss on the cheek and tell her to go relax and I will take over in the kitchen. So, I help my Mom who is cutting veggies and I ask her what happened. My Mom says that my sister is being a “little b-tch” and is being snappy. So, I scold my Mom for talking about my sister that way and suggest to sis that we go on a walk around the neighborhood as it was a beautiful day and not too cold. So, we go on the walk and my sister tells me that my mom has been in a terrible mood since that morning. I tell her about the text her husband sent me that morning (which I immediately regretted) because then she started crying saying that the two of them were ganging up on her. So, we go back home, more family comes over and someone busts some wine out. My mom is not a big drinker-one beer and she’s toasty. So, she poured herself a large glass of wine and once half the glass was gone she was being pretty inappropriate. She was saying really off-color things about my sex life with my ex (I was in a lesbian relationship, so you can imagine the things she was saying) and also saying offensive things about my sister and how heavy she’s gotten since she’s gotten pregnant. She thought she was being funny, but really she was just being awkward and it made the vibe so uncomfortable. My sister ended up getting really upset at the things my Mom was saying and I basically stepped in and told my mom she was being a b-tch and making everyone uncomfortable. Most everyone had left by the time I said that, so it’s not like I said it in front of my entire family but still my mom was furious and she left. I haven’t talked to my Mom since then; I was staying with her for a bit after I broke up with my ex, but now I am temporarily renting a room at a friends’ house. I know I should apologize to what I said to my mom, but she was also out of line. Thoughts??