Post # 46
I don’t think it’s tacky at all and I think it shouldn’t matter what day it is! Your SO is proposing to you and you should be happy and grateful he/she wants to marry you and has taken those steps to do so.
My brother proposed to his fiance on X-MAS eve. All of our family was there and it was so sweet and amazing. We dress up very nice for X-Mas even so her hair was done, nails nice and cute dress. She had no idea! none! It was so sweet and great. We were at my cousin’s house as she was hosting (she was in on it as she is a photographer) and she caught amazing pictures. We had our other cousin video the entire thing as well. While we were there, my brother had her best friend put rose petals leading up to their bedroom and cute light candles so they could celebrate on their own later that night too.
Post # 47
My family takes Christmas Eve very seriously, and my husband proposed before our family party. It was so meaningful, and then we got to go celebrate with our family – now Christmas Eve is extra special to us.
Post # 48
Hard pass, I think its unoriginal and honestly why the need to combine something so special with such a big holiday.. the last thing I would want after getting proposed is to have all our family ask a milliion questions at Christmas dinner and not be able to enjoy this private moment.
Post # 49
glitterati : totally agree that overshadowing your partners achievement with an engagement is awful, selfish behaviour. Like,you can’t be happy for them as an individual, you have to make it about you? That’s how it comes off to me, anyways.
Post # 50
Each to their own. I personally didn’t want an engagement around the holidays (including Valentine’s) because those days are usually filled with travel, family, and lots of stress. Throwing in an engagement on top of the busy schedule would have been a bit overwhelming, and I’m much happier with the quiet, private moment we had instead. Plus we had time to go out for a nice dinner together because of the timing.
Post # 51
- Wedding: April 2019 - City, State
Yes! I’m already engaged, and my fiance doesn’t like the idea of holiday proposals so I knew I wouldnt have one, which is fine! I love our proposal moment. But If my fiance had proposed on Christmas or Christmas eve I wouldnt have said no and i would still have been ecstatic. It’s about the commitment you make to each other, I dont care what day of the year it falls on
Post # 52
I guess I find it strange to cast aspersions on a Christmas time proposal because it’s “unoriginal” and “basic.” Ouch. My husband proposed in mid December the day before our 5-year anniversary in London on the Tower Bridge after we visited the Christmas market. I mean how original and non-basic was that? I have no idea, but I know I loved it and I would have have loved it had it been on Christmas day because he put some thought into it. I think if a woman came on here complaining about a Christmas proposal some of the same Bees would be admomishing her for “wanting the proposal more than the marriage.”
Post # 53
Literally dont care what day it is. Maybe because Im early 30’s – the formality stuff just doesnt matter. Do it whenever or however, as long as its HIM asking Im good <3
Post # 54
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
mimivac : That sounds BEAUTIFUL. I love London at Christmas, it’s just magical <3
Post # 55
I’m on the side of the people who say it doesn’t matter. A proposal is something you do because of the future. Who cares when it happens if it feels right. I don’t think anyone really proposes hoping that it’s a bad time and is going to get criticized. I don’t really see proposals or necessarily even weddings as events to get so fussed over. Also…Christmas stress? Maybe I’m doing this stuff wrong, but happy things like holidays and engagements don’t feel super stressful to me.
Post # 56
I have nothing against Xmas engagments. Something that was important to me was that we have time to be alone and enjoy the moment privately after getting engaged, though, and I could see that being difficult during a Xmas engagement. For people who like the idea of their family being involved in an engagement, holiday proposals seem to make a lot of sense, especially since many people don’t get to see their whole families together that often.
I also don’t think that the date you get engaged is particularly important, though. My husband actually proposed on his birthday a few years ago, and we still celebrate it as his birthday – not his birthday plus the day we got engaged. I guess if I’d said no that might have been a bad association, but I accepted haha.
Post # 57
I wouldn’t have wanted a Dec 25th proposal, as that would confuse the heck out of people since I’m Jewish. But the spouse did propose on the “Jewish Valentines Day” a day that is especially auspicious for love. And yes, we do celebrate our proposaversary every year.
Post # 58
I think it’s lame and unimaginative. I like Christmas but wouldn’t have wanted a proposal at that time. So glad Darling Husband planned something thoughtful with the focus solely being on our relationship.
Post # 59
manylovesbee1 : I completely agree. The same people on here that would spurn a woman with a thread titled “my proposal was a disappointment” are saying “Christmas proposals are lame and tacky.” Yikes, I guess these women also designed their own ring, gave their guy the receipt and an itinerary for the proposal and practiced their surprise face for a month.