Post # 1
Maybe just a vent…
Ugh, I am so disappointed in myself this Christmas. I can usually at least come up with one good gift to give my husband. This year the only thing I could come up with is a fire pit, and I couldn’t even find one that he would like for less than $150, which would leave no room for stocking stuffers or anything else. So he said he needed clothes, and he doesn’t buy them for himself, so I took that and ran with it. This year, under the tree, these are the disappointing gifts he will receive
5 shirts, a Fleece vest and a fleece pullover from Old Navy
A pair of jeans and a pair of khakis
2 Blue Ray Movies
In his stocking he will receive lottery tickets, Axe body spray, Axe shower gel, a universal remote (all of his remotes recently died), $25 in gold coins, A toblerone bar and I can’t remember if there is anything else.
Has anyone else had this problem? I feel like the $150 I had to spend didn’t go very far at all and that he will be so disappointed on Christmas. In my defense, he insisted that he did not want anything for Christmas, making it very hard for me to give him the perfect gift.
Today is his birthday, so I went out and bought something that he had been wanting. He went to the store like 10 times waiting for it to go on sale and it never did, so he didn’t buy it. I thought it would be a great surprise. I wrapped it up for today. Last night he comes home from a different store and says “Look what I found!” Apparently they had the same thing for a better price and HE BOUGHT IT! I suck at this.
Post # 3
Yeah, my Fiance is similarly difficult to buy for. None of the big presents we get each other are ever a surprise; usually if we want something, we just go out and get it, so we have to consult each other beforehand to make sure we don’t end up with doubles.
On top of that, we both managed to sabotage/ruin the surprise on each other’s smaller gifts this year, so Christmas 2010 is going to be a no-surprise zone, lol.
I guess all you can really do is laugh it off. He’ll appreciate your efforts no matter what.
Post # 4
you’re being way too hard on yourself! maybe every year’s christmas or birthday present is the most original thing ever, but so what! there’s always next year 🙂
Post # 5
Those sound like great, useable gifts–and so many! My hubby is just getting 1 shirt, plus his stocking. 🙂 Don’t stress about it.
Post # 6
I think that’s a huge amount of gifts to buy for just $150! I don’t think he’ll be disappointed, and you are worrying too much. Also, maybe next year you should institute a “no buying gifts for yourself in the month of December” rule haha
Post # 7
@aubrav: You did great! Don’t beat yourself up!
If you want to do one more thing, could you think of anything personal or sweet? A photo album or scrapbook? Or a personalized ornament? Or make a piece of art that’s personal to you guys ( for example, I want to frame the key to our first place – thank you Young House Love for the idea lol).
Post # 8
Don’t worry, I’m sure he’ll love everything. I bought my husband a nice new electric Norelco razor as one of his Christmas gifts and last week he says, “I just ordered a new Norelco razor online…..” Argh! So I have to return the one I bought. (Your story about his birthday gift reminded me of this)
I like JrzyGurl’s suggestion above. Since you just got married, could you give him a special ornament? Maybe one with your names/wedding date?
Post # 9
Thank you so much, girls! You really make me feel a lot better about it. I guess I’m just disappointed I didn’t find that one thing he wanted that would actually be surprised and excited to get. Last year was a blu-ray player, one year it was the expensive DVD box set of “From the Earth to the Moon”, one year a tv (before flat panels were popular and reasonably priced), one year a DVD burner, etc. Also, while he needs the clothing, he is not one to get excited about clothes at all. So while I know he will appreciate everything I got him, there is no “WOW” factor. He got me a laptop for Christmas, this stuff doesn’t even compare. Oh, and the reason I know that is because the only way I could get it is if I went out on Black Friday for it, so I did, and then proceeded to wrap it and put it under the tree.
His best friend bought us dinner tonight at the boat (Horseshoe Casino) and he was wearing an Old Navy jacket. So I told him about my dilemma and that I bought him a bunch of clothes from Old Navy. He told me that was a great gift, that my husband needed to update his wardrobe (lol!) and how excited he was when his girlfriend bought him new clothes from Old Navy. That definitely made me feel better.
As far as the personalized gift, that would be more something that I would enjoy. I am a very sentimental person and he really isn’t, only with certain things. He might keep a card if it is really something he wants to remember, but he’s not into all that personalized stuff as much as I am. Just in case I get some free time, how would you make and ornament with names and wedding date? I am not really good at sewing words, so I couldn’t embroider it onto fabric. Any ideas?
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Post # 10
I’m not a DIY person so I can’t help you with the ornament thing. We have stores in our area that will engrave the ornaments if you give them your names, wedding date, etc. Maybe you could find a place that could do it?
Is he into sports at all? How about tickets to a sporting event? Or a comedy show or music concert? A gift card to his favorite store or restaurant?
I’m sure he’ll love all the clothes you got him! 🙂 I have such trouble picking gifts for my husband. I find women so much easier to shop for!! And remember the gifts aren’t the most important part. It’s your first Christmas married. That’s so special!
Post # 11
Our rule for presents is 1 practical, 1 romantic, 1 sexy. Makes things personal yet simple. The practival was a new remote for his SUV, the romantic was concert tickets, and the sexy- tmi….)
Post # 12
@Jenn23: He is so not a sports guy. There is a couple of concerts coming up that he would enjoy (Rush and Winterjam) but 2 tickets to Rush in a decent section would be around $175 and 2 tickets to Winterjam (VIP) would be $100. The tickets would be doable, if I hadn’t already bought the clothes. I wish I had thought about that before, but on the other hand, he does need the clothes.
@retreadbride: That is definitely a good system. My husband really only wants practical gifts though, anything else is kind of a waste. I made the mistake of buying him a big stuffed monkey for Valentine’s Day about 5 years ago and that’s when I first found out he definitely preferred practical gifts, lol.