(Closed) Christmas Gift Dilemma for SO's Family

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
14495 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Welcome to the Hive!

I would just send them a card and leave it at that.  It is nice of you to send something for his folks but brothers and sisters are different.  Maybe next year revist the relationship you have with them and consider a gift.


Post # 4
69 posts
Worker bee

I agree with sending a card to your SO’s sister.  If you do end up seeing her over the holiday maybe just bring something small/informal like homemade cookies as a gift.  I think it’s very nice of you to send his parents a gift basket ~ Harry & David’s are the best!! 🙂

Post # 5
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@HisLittleDarlin:  Send something inexpensive but thoughtful (like a framed picture of her brother or their family without you in it, a nice candle, etc.).This way she doesn’t feel back for not getting you anything but appreciates the thought. Also a handwritten card goes a long way if you decide to forego the gift.

As a sister I understand being reticent to befriend girlfriends until engagement happens. Honestly you aren’t his first and might not be his last so she is just not trying to get attached.

Post # 6
2213 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with everyone else – a gift for his parents would be a lovely gesture, but for a first Christmas, a card to his sister’s family should be enough.

I had my first Christmas with my SO’s family just last year…gave a little assortment of homemade candies, other edible bits, and some of my handcrafted soap (yeah, I know that sounds like a weird combo, but they were in two different gift baskets!  :P) to his Dad/Stepmom and his Mom/her boyfriend.  I didn’t give anything to the siblings and it didn’t feel awkward.

Post # 7
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I wouldnt get the sister anything or her kids. I’d let your boyfriend handle gifts for his family. If his parents are getting you something then may (or may not) expect a gift from you. I’d gauge how big you expect it to be. I once received a mitten and hat set that were 5$ from my inlaws (so id have something to open) before they were my inlaws. I would go with an informal gift of a plate of cookies or a wine personally – if I brought anything at all.

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