(Closed) Christmas Gifting??? Bees Weigh In!

posted 5 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: Regifted necklace?
    Who cares? It's the thought that counts. : (15 votes)
    42 %
    You got this from WHO???? : (6 votes)
    17 %
    New is THE only option on this. : (3 votes)
    8 %
    Leave your friend to fend for himself...it's HIS girlfriend. : (12 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    309 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’m a little torn on this issue.  I don’t love the idea but I can recognize that it just makes sense.  I dunno, I couldn’t vote!

    Post # 4
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    1719 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My BFF’s (a guy) gf was very insecure about our friendship.  Even though, we have never dated nor has he ever liked me, she didn’t like anything to have to do with me. 

    I would let your friend fend for himself on this one just to be on the safe side.

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    11168 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I think it is a really nice and considerate thought but I don’t know if it would go over as smoothly as you think. Would your friend possibly be offended by the suggestion?

    I think for situations like this it is best to stay out. Perhaps take your friend to dinner if he is having a difficult time financially or get him a gift card for a generic place to help him out. This seems to be a potential landmine of drama if you get involved.

    Post # 7
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    AAACK!!! i can’t vote.  I’ve been going over and over all the choices.  The logical part of my brain is saying “What’s the big deal so it was someone else’s first ” The other part of my brain is going … “well and my b/f used to BE with that chick”  ….. what if you took a few of those necklaces to the jeweler and see how much you could get for them.

    Post # 8
    Member
    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If I were the giftee I wouldn’t be too happy about it.  I’d prefer a card over an ex flame’s necklace.

    But fwiw I don’t think you’re a jerk for offering it or thinking of offering it.  I’d probably do the same.

    I’m a walking contradiction :p

    Post # 10
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    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I don’t think it’s a good idea. It  just seems like too much could go wrong. Give him the money for a necklace if you want to help out, but don’t give him something of your own.

    Post # 11
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    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I don’t even know why the hell it’s such a big deal that the necklace came from an old flame unless that flame was still kindling. FFS.

    Post # 13
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    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @Nona99:  lol my issue with such gifts wouldn’t be who it came from, but the condition it’s in!

    Post # 14
    Member
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I would be pretty upset knowing he sold his class ring for something like that…..

    Post # 15
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    138 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Man that is a TOUGH one…. I would ask your friend.  Offer these choices to him and let him decide which one would be better.  I think a lot depends on his gf and how secure she is in their relationship and possibly how she even feels about you.  And I think no one would know better than your friend.  I personally think what you are doing is extremely sweet and giving.  Merry Christmas to you! 🙂

    Post # 16
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    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I don’t think it should matter, but she might be mad about it. Would he tell her where he got it from? 

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