Post # 1
I’m not in the best financial situation right now. I will admit financially, I detest Christmas. One of my children’s birthday is a few days before Christmas and one is a week and a half after. Christmas is a financial nightmare to me.
My best friend knows this. He knows how stressed I get this time of year. Trying to make ends meet and still have a magical Christmas. He knows gifts from me are $20 gifts (for anyone not my children. )
Last night he shows up and gave me his Christmas gifts to me. Omg he got me a bunch of cute hair accessories, a bottle of vodka with shooter flutes a $25 gift certificate to a make up store, some adorable owl earrings…and a croc greenion straightner. This is a $165 flat iron. (He knew my current one was in desperate need of replacement and he’s also my hairdresser so he bitches and complains when my hair looks like crap)
Wtf am I going to do? I need to think of something cheap and amazing to do for him and have zero frigging clue! He’s just gone through a terrible break up and is taking a break from life and moving back to his parents so he is completely down sizing everything he has.
I’m thinking a nice bottle of tequila but other than that like I said I’m in financial doom. He knows this and when we did discuss Christmas we did say small things, like he wanted a box of friggin pot of gokd chocolate and thats it. But Omg I want to do something for him. He went way overboard and really thought out his gifts for me it was so sweet! (He even made me a stocking)
Anyone have any ideas on what to get an amazing friend like this? He is an amazing cook, but like I said he is downsizing and getting rid of most things so getting him anything cooking related is a no. He is very picky about any type of hair products and accessories so that’s a no. Omg maybe I’ll get him a nice bottle of cologne..I’ll splurge?
Oh and when I told him Omg this is too much he told me to shut up. He doesn’t have children he only has me and his dogs to spoil so just accept his gifts and the best present from him is the amazed look on my face when I opened the straightner.
He gave it all to me early as a surprise because he knows I have family parties to attend starting this weekend.
This topic was modified 4 years, 12 months ago by smoocherific.
Post # 2
Look….gifts aren’t tit for tat. He KNOWS you don’t have alot of money, you shouldn’t be counting the $ amount. Plus as a hairdresser I highly doublt he paid the full retail, although even half is generous and much more than you can afford to recropricate.
You have $20, go to the grocer, get a $15 steak, a bag of potatotes $3 and a $1 frozen broccli. Invite him over for a very fancy meal. And you still have $1 left over for the chocolate bar.
Post # 3
I’m not looking for a title for tat. More like ideas for a special gift. There’s no way monetarily I can reciprocate.
Food is a no go. May be good for others but he’s the amazing cook and I’m the cooking flop. Literally when I work evenings he makes me amazing meals and brings them too me. He has a food blog and is always cooking. Anything I made would be paltry to him. Laughable even.
But I do make a kick butt fudge. Only he isn’t big on sweets. Hmm maybe I’ll make him some anyhow?
Post # 4
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Does he like coffee? Or even a gas gift card? I am broke after all we spent on christmas. I got my best friend a card and a gift card to starbuck,a $2 bottle of wine. It’s not about what was spent, it’s about the gesture.
Post # 5
First of all, your friend sounds awesome and incredibly thoughtful. Good for you. If he’s going through a bad break-up and moving back in with his parents, why don’t you try to do something that will cheer him up a bit and take his mind off of things? It doesn’t have to be done right now, which I’m sure he’ll understand as he knows your situation, but why don’t you invite him over and have a nice night just the two of you? Watch some cool old movies, eat sweets, talk and talk and talk, have some wine if you’re into it. Instead of feeling like you have to give him a thing, give him an experience. It sounds like he could use a friend more than anything right now. And I’m sure most of his friends are very busy right now and don’t have time to just hang out and listen to him.
Or go do something he wouldn’t usually do which could be fun like going ice-skating (sans your kids) or to a Christmas market or if there’s fireworks or carols on a particular night or a tree-lighting. Something that’s fun and related to the season but which won’t cost you any money. You know what he’s into – I’m sure there’s some sort of experience he would appreciate without you having to break the bank. Just try to think of what you can do which will make him happy instead of buying him anything.
Even just go over to his parents’ place and help him unpack his stuff if he’s still in the process of moving in. Nobody likes unpacking or moving back in with their parents – that way he won’t have to wallow in his unfortunate circumstances all alone, he can vent or you can talk about something else while you work.
Post # 6
smoocherific: http://www.candydrawerconfectionary.com/ecommerce/confections/black-salt-hoss-caramels.html This is an extremely delicious confectionary. I know you said he doesn’t have a sweet tooth but niether does my SO but he loved these Hoss black salted caramels from here. Those caramels even beat chocolate.