Post # 1
Okay bees, I need your help. I’m pretty sure im going to get a proposal from my SO this christmas, as well as a tablet(I think he thinks im clueless on both of these but he sucks at keeping secrets), but I’m totally stumped on what to get him! I hate being outdone, which is kind of inevitable this year as most of my funds are going towards a trip to Africa for a 5 month volunteering trip, and im still in school, while he is out of school working about 55 hours a week at twice the pay rate that I get. I’d really like to do something that connects us in some way since I will be leaving about a week after christmas.
So here are my thoughts, feel free to comment on them and please if you have any other suggestions let me know!
My first thought was a tablet, but the problem is that I don’t know much about what to look for in a tablet and now that I know he is getting me one I feel really weird getting him the same thing. The advantage would be that while im in africa we could use them to play online games and skype together more easily than with our computers. But im afraid of getting something that sucks.
I also thought about getting him black ops 2, but I feel like this has absolutely nothing to do with our relationship and how much I love him and I’m afraid the only reason he plays black ops is because he plays online with a friend, and if that friend also doesnt get the new one there will be no point to playing it.
I bought some fleece to make him a tie blanket and im also designing a pillowcase. My plan is to put a picture of 2 wolves on it using iron on then write a love quote that is relevant to us so he will sleep with that while im gone. But I think I might make that now and hide it away and have someone deliver it to him for valentines day because I will have been gone for a little over a month a that point. But neither of these feels like enough.
And yet another idea was to get him a projector screen to use with the projector his parents got him last year. He mentioned wanting one becaue he has nowhere to really use to the projector. But again, I dont feel like this is really relivant to our relationship.
If you read that all the way through, heres a cookie! There will be more if you can help me 😀
Post # 3
Oy I hope he really is proposing because if not you will be pretty disappointed. Don’t get your hopes up unless you really know he will!
Why not get black ops for him? Every gift doesn’t necessarily have to do with the two of you does it?
If you really wanted to give him something that has to do with the two of you since you are sure he will be proposing then I think the blanket would be a nice gift for christmas and you can get him something a little less extravagant for v-day.
Post # 4
I know how you feel! We’re getting engaged over Christmas, and he just got me a new iPod Touch for Christmas, so I’ve felt lost as to what to get him. He’s been graduated for years and has a good job, while I am still a student, so financially we’ve always been lopsided anyway.
Anyway, I know men like gifts that are practical, and really, they aren’t bad gifts at all! It shows that you listen to him and know what he needs/wants. That in itself makes it personal.
You could always get him the game, or the projector screen, plus something smaller and more meaningful. A framed picture of you two with a note, some crafty jar of memories, some sort of presentation of the things you love about him, etc.
Post # 5
I’m trying to talk myself out of thinking that its happening, but he has hinted pretty heavily that its happening on christmas and I accidently found the ring (he put it where he usually keeps small tools!)
The reason why I really want it to have to do with our relationship in some way is because of the long trip im about to go on and I’d really like to have something there to remind him every day how much I love him. Plus things like games and such he has plenty of money to buy himself if he really wanted it, but he cant buy himself something that has meaning from me.
Post # 6
I went ahead and ordered the projector because I found a really nice one for a good price on ebay and there was only one left in stock. I’ve already started the blanket so he is getting that, and I think I may also get him a movie that we have been wanting to watch but its a kind of old kids movie so we cant find it in stores but it shouldnt be very expensive to buy so christmas night we can snuggle up with the blanket and watch the movie on his new projector screen.
I think I’ll save the pillowcase idea for valentines day, because he will be totally surprised to get a gift when im so far away without reliable mail service.
Post # 7
@Tachetetreasures: i think the projector screen was a nice call. it’s valuable and he mentioned he wanted it
Post # 8
Could you pair the projector screen with something personal? Like maybe a DVD of pictures of both of you since you started dating, or something?
Post # 9
@MariaW: unfortunately there are very few pictures of us in existence. I’m the picture taker of the relationship, and I have not had a working camera for quite some time now.
Post # 10
Projector sounds perfect!
Post # 11
How about a jar full of love notes- one for each day you are gone? That is cheap, but super thoughtful because it is a lot of effort. Can’t wait tohear about the proposal!
Post # 12
I got things that I want him to have, proposal or not, together or not. It was SO much easier to think of things that way. =) I think the projector idea is cool, and now you have incentive to take pictures, yay!