(Closed) Can't be 2 places at once, xmas is stressing me out! :(

posted 5 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You guys should think about alternating holidays. Ok logistics say DH’s parents would be easier this year so next year go to your parents. Then do the next upcoming holiday with yours, like maybe easter. Then Easter at DH’s folks next year, etc etc.

Or do every Christmas with his folks and every new years with yours. Just negotiate. Hurting IL  feelings are inevitable once you marry :p  

You could do what I do. REFUSE TO TRAVEL! I make them come to me. Then you get to spend holidays with the most ambitious :p  This eliminates most of the hurt feelings lol.

Post # 4
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you guys should stop obligating yourselves to everyone else. You’re your own family now – take Christmas to yourselves to celebrate that!

Post # 6
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3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would visit your parents over the weekend. You should be with your husband on Christmas (IMO) and with the bad weather and everything it might just be best to be on the safe side and postpone. Good luck!

Post # 8
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yean but she can get to work in the morning and your Fiance can’t.  It’s one freaking day.  THIS drives me nuts.  Sure everyone wants to celebrate the holiday on the holidy but you know what … SH*T happens.  It would be entirely different if this was the ONLY time you saw them all year. 

It sucks and I’m sorry your family isn’t more understanding.  Maybe explain to your mother about the storm coming and y’all work hours.

Post # 9
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I just seriously hope that no one I know that’s a mom/going to be a mom does this guilt trip crap to their kids

 

Post # 11
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7753 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

As a PP said, you and Darling Husband need to work out an alternating system. e.g. one year it’s Xmas at your parents and Thanksgiving at his, the next year it’s the other way around. To me it sounds unacceptable that you haven’t seen your parents on either day for 2 years, especially if you are seeing his parents on those days.

Also, Darling Husband should never have committed to seeing his parents without consulting you.

I think it’s probably too late for this year (since Darling Husband has committed you to his parents) but you need to have this in place in future.

Post # 14
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ohowiloveyou:  Aww you didn’t really ruin their Christmas. Christmas is what you make of it and it sounds like you had a lovely one!. 😀  Relaxing with Darling Husband is just what the doctor ordered. Mama is just trying to play the guilt card.

I seriously think with DH’s work schedule everyone being invited to your house of the holidays would take a lot of pressure off. Then if people chose not to come that is on them. You can stop them from playing the guilt card by saying “well I wanted you here”.

I am so glad that you were not out on those nasty roads risking your life, sanity and marriage :p  This really hasn’t been the best Chritmas for traveling has it?

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ohowiloveyou:  I did have a wonderful relaxing Christmas thanks 😀

Yeah we have a lot of snow. The drifts are crotch deep. I tried driving up to see my folks today and had to turn around and come home. Guess i will try in the morning and pray the wind stops howling and blowing snow all over the roads.

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