(Closed) Christmas Issues

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should my SO have the same spending limit as I do?
    Yes, keep it even and fair! : (10 votes)
    36 %
    No, let him spend as much as he wants! : (18 votes)
    64 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Why wouldnt you let him spend as much as he wants?  So that you don’t feel bad?

    Post # 4
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    556 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think you can ask that if he feels the need, he can spend a little more, but within reason (up to, say, maybe $50). Explain to him that you still intend to stick to your initial budget, and hope he can as well, because saving is better than spending!

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    As long as he understands that you won’t be able to match him, and isn’t one to gloat about “how much better his present was than yours” then I see no problem in letting him spend as much as he wants.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @babybee92:  Yeah… I think it is up to you, really!  If that makes you feel bad… or you could do special things for him that don’t cost a lot but are thoughtful- baking him cookies, a nice dinner, or whatever it is that he loves, to kind of “make up” for the difference in cost?

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @babybee92:  Yes let him buy you what he wants! I would not feel bad 🙂

     

    He wants to get you something special and he can afford it. You can also get him something just as special on a smaller budget.

    Post # 9
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    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Now that we’re married it doesn’t really matter because our money is pooled, but Darling Husband makes about twice what I do.  He always spent a lot more on gifts for me than I could on him.  It bothered me a lot, then I realized that was his choice and something that gave him joy.  So I let him.

    (It helped we only dated through one Christmas and birthday each)

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    @babybee92:  Good! 

    I said that because one of my good friends is dating a guy who told her last christmas her gift wasn’t “good” enough so he returned the gift he bought her. They had only been dating a couple of months, so she bought him stuff he needed like razors, lotion, a nice shirt, etc. I called bullshit and said he didn’t even get her anything. That wasn’t his first GIANT RED FLAG (or his last), but she’s gotten great at ignoring them lol. So, I’m happy to hear that this is not the case with you :]

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I say let him spoil you! You deserve it.

    Post # 14
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    Busy Beekeeper

    Why do you feel the spending limit had to be the same?  I say – let him spoil you and be appreciative!  If he doesn’t mind not receiving a lavish gift  – then don’t ruin his desire to be generous with you!  ENJOY IT! 🙂 🙂

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