Christmas Morning With In Laws?

posted 10 months ago in Holidays
Post # 2
2139 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

emsie :  WOOF that’s be so early to leave my own home to be somewhere else for breaky by 8am. Hard pass. I love sleeping too much. BUT when Darling Husband and I sleep over at the in laws for holidays presents and breakfast start whenever everyone is up. 

Post # 3
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

Yikes! Is your drive long?

We’ve been trading off Christmas morning with our parents (his last year, mine this year) but we spend Christmas Eve night with whoever so there’s no early traveling. Once we have kids, they can come to us Christmas morning, but we won’t be traveling anymore for early gift opening.

But that sounds crazy early to me! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with telling them you’ll be arriving later in the morning as you don’t like to set an alarm on the holidays. Surely a compromise can be reached!

Post # 4
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

That would be early for me, but I’m not an early riser and neither is our 2 year old daughter. My husband would be ok with that time. It would also depend on how far of a drive it is. 

When we’re at my parents for Christmas we start Christmas when everyone is awake.

when we’re home we do the same haha. This year my in-laws are coming to our house to have breakfast/see our daughter with her gifts at 9am. emsie :  

Post # 5
1891 posts
Buzzing bee


I’m with my boyfriends family for Christmas and they start at 7am ๐Ÿ˜ซ haha. 

emsie :  

Post # 6
4060 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That depends: are there young kids therr? If so, 8am is late tbh.

Post # 9
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We also spend Christmas morning with my in laws to do gifts around the tree, but we sleep over the night before as they’re an hour drive away and I’m not willing to wake up and travel so early. At least this way, I can roll out of the guest bed in my pajamas. 

Post # 10
4498 posts
Honey bee

I don’t think that is too early if you have young kids in the home anxious to get started.

I do think that once the kids are grown and out of the house, then it is a bit ridiculous and unrealistic to expect grown adults to be up and out if the house to celebrate that early.  But then I think both a Christmas breakfast and a Christmas dinner with the same family is a bit much anyway.  Maybe a Christmas eve dinner and Christmas day breakfast if you’re all staying in the same house, but not both in one day.  Once people marry and start having to split time (or you have divorced families) it’s just a bit much.

That said, my family was never big on Christmas breakfast.  We have a lot of healthcare professionals who work every other holiday so their schedules dictated Christmas eve vs. Christmas day.  If it’s Christmas eve then it’s usually dinner around 5.  If it’s Christmas day it’s usually lunch around noon.  However, the last two or three years the big family gathering has been the weekend before and the holiday itself is reserved for quiet celebrations with our own homes with our SOs.

Post # 11
6169 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

That sounds like a whole lot of oh hell no! I wouldn’t be sticking with that tradition.

My family does Christmas Eve gatherings (afternoon to evening) and my in laws do Christmas afternoon to evening. I’m now even more appreciative of that. Our son thinks presents are an evening activity!

Post # 12
549 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

I’d stay overnight if you’re fine with it. That way you can be in your pajamas and it wouldn’t be weird (depending on where you live, that getting dressed and driving time adds up!) We’re going the day before (not sure when they wake up). 

Post # 13
1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

emsie :  yeah that wouldn’t fly with me and I’m an early riser more often than not.  We start Christmas at 9.30 at my Son’s house 10 minutes away.

Post # 14
109 posts
Blushing bee

Well you should go on time this year, since it’s so close to Christmas. But I agre I would not care of such an early time that serves no ppurpose. If it bothers you and your husband then have a conversation about it for future gatherings. Even if it is tradition, it isn’t practical for everyone. Hopefully the majority agrees.

Post # 15
878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

emsie :  this would be my Mum – she still gets us stockings and we’re in our late 20s and early 30s! 

If I was staying over on Christmas Eve, I still feel like this would be waaay too early. What does SO think? I vote have an afternoon nap today and just roll with it, but I love Christmas so I’m down for an even longer day 

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