Post # 16
They are still actively parenting kids at this point. Things will change once they are no longer in that role.
Once my brother and I had kids, my parents changed to coming to our houses to watch the kids open gifts. My kids are early risers. They catch school buses at 6 am. So my parents are usually at my house by 5 or 6 am waiting in the driveway until they see movement in the house.
Post # 17
Oh wow, I’m so glad that we do gifts on Christmas Eve in my home country. I’d be really grumpy to do that so early in the morning which would actually ruin the mood I think. However, I really do feel for you but in the recent years I’ve tried to suggest some minor unimportant changes of tradition to the older generation and it will never happen, ugh. They’ll say “hm, we’ll think about it” but what they mean is “.. but we will still do things my way” or the emotional manipulation begins. Sorry 🙁
Post # 18
emsie : hmmmm I think you’re being a little harsh. I go to my parents at 8am for breakfast and to open presents. It’s literally the only way the day will work for us. We open presents and leave about 2pm to eat Christmas dinner with my husbands family. As soon as presents are open we then see my grandma and mum begins dinner etc so there isn’t another time to do it.
You didn’t specify where you’re eating Christmas dinner? If it’s with them, I’d say maybe take turns and do alternate years. That way it will only be every two years that you have an early start!
Post # 19
Jeeeeeesus. We did early Christmas with boyfriend’s parents and are heading to mine today. In both of our families it’s tradition that we open up gifts on Christmas Eve, so no early rising over here. Christmas morning is all about sleeping in late, then waking up and having coffee, mimosas, and breakfast treats like stöllen or Apfelstrudel.
Post # 20
Sounds about right fit breakfast to me. But then I was up at 5 this morning and will be again tomorrow to get everything ready for our guests and to go over to MILs for lunch. Oh and I’m 34 weeks pregnant.
Tbh suck it up, don’t be rude by being late and be thankful you have family who want to celebrate with you. Sleep in on Boxing Day (that’s what it’s for)
Post # 21
I am also in the “suck it up and just do it” camp! Would it be nice to sleep in on Christmas? Absolutely! but we wake up early every year for Christmas to head to my parent’s house 2hrs away and still be there to have breakfast with them. My mom always said “holidays aren’t about resting, they’re about being with your family however you have to make that happen”. 8:00 isn’t super early, that’s what time we were at my fiance’s parent’s house yesterday. And we were there ALL DAY as well. Eventually, if you have kids, you’ll go over later, or you’ll have people to your house for Christmas. Or something will change. But for now, its not a huge deal.
Post # 22
Twizbe : If OP is in the U.S., Boxing Day isn’t a thing here. Boxing Day is go back to work like everything is normal day here because the only day that is actually a holiday is Christmas Day. Although if you’re a non-essential federal employee the feds declared at the last minute they get Christmas Eve as a paid holiday. But for a lot of us, Christmas day is our only day off unless we use our vacation/PTO accruals to take it off.
So yeah, I totally get wanting a bit of a relaxing morning before a full day of family obligations.
Post # 23
We have a late night Christmas Eve and go for breakfast at SIL’s on Christmas morning. Everyone sleeps in a little and we all get in touch when we wake up. We usually get there around 1030-11. It’s nice not to feel rushed. 8 am would really suck but id probably just do it if that was their tradition.
Post # 24
emsie : once we had our daughter we stopped going anywhere Christmas day. We see my family Christmas Eve (my husband’s family is Jewish) and Christmas Day is just for our nuclear family.
Post # 25
im not an early riser and for as much as i still love christmas, thats really early. Unfortunately i think its a little to late to bring up your concerns, so you might just have to suck it up this year. As far as next year, their youngest will be 18 at that point, maybe things will change or maybe mention trying something different for next years christmas.
Can you just stay the night at their house the night before, or is that not an option?
Post # 26
We don’t go over there until 11 at the earliest. My family has never done an early morning thing either.
Post # 27
Anything earlier than 10 is no bueno imo. But I have a toddler, and that adds an hour to any scheduled event lol
Post # 28
I think 8am is late Hahaha but I’ve got little kids. To be honest, I mean, if you have kids you’ll probably be up early anyway, and if you don’t have kids, you get to sleep in all the time if you want, one day isn’t going to hurt lol. Breakfast after 9 is ridic. Especially older people who probably have been waking up 6am every day for 30 years to have to wait until 10am for breakfast is a bit late. Especially if they’re the ones who have to host and cook.