Post # 1
Ok, all caps probably wasn’t necessary in the title.
Every month my boss likes to throw potlucks. I HATE these potlucks. hey are soooooo dramatic! Everyone argues about the menu, who’s bringing what, etc. Well, this “Christmas potluck”, I’m supposed to bring something, and I just do not feel like it. If you’ve followed my dramatic work tales, you know that I am actually not a fan of my workplace, and I don’t want to contribute. I’m being a pouty teenager (inwardly) about the whole thing. It might sound stupid, but it’s sort of my way of saying I will not submit to your crazy antics! I will not be a part of something so ridiculous! I will not feed everyone’s desire to argue and fight about something that doesn’t even matter!
Ok, vent over. I have 6 weeks until I’m putting in my resignation, so here’s hoping I can make it 6 more weeks!
Post # 3
@jb20: I hate potlucks too. I commute on the train and it’s not convenient; I don’t trust the cleanliness of other people’s home and don’t eat communal food; and I am perfectly capable of bringing my own lunch. I totally understand – it sucks! I am so glad my new workplace doesn’t do crap like that. It’s work. Let’s work and go home. I’m not there to be social and lose work hours to stupid shit causing me to have to work at home…when I’m with my family, who I want to see.
At least you’re out of there soon!
Post # 4
@MrsPanda99: I’m so glad someone else feels the same way and doesn’t think I’m being a giant baby about it. Seriously, 5 other people work in my building. Let’s just order pizza and call it good.
And I 2nd the social aspect…These people AREN’T my friends. They are co-workers. I don’t want to share cheese dip and crackers with them. I have a very specific timeline for my job: show up, work, go home, get paid every two weeks.
Post # 5
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@jb20: mehh I wouldn’t be thrilled either.
Hang in there, 6 more weeks!
Post # 6
@lealorali: I just hate these stupid things. They are easily one of my least favorite things we do at work!
Post # 7
@jb20: Ughh, my previous boss used to do this all the time. I would always run in to the supermarket on the way to work and buy a box or two of cookies. Ain’t nobody got time to cook for your co-workers.
Post # 9
@jb20: Eh, I kind of like a good potluck, but every month is freakin ridiculous! I wouldn’t want to participate either.
Post # 10
@SincerelyShe: If they were a quarterly or twice a year thing, sure, they would be ok. Once a month? Not at all.
Post # 11
@jb20: Ugh, what a pain! I’d probably also grab something from the store to avoid confrontation. Six more weeks!
Post # 12
@Kili: Haha, that’s the plan. Seriously, there is already enough confrontation about these. Some of the stories I have are so off the wall, I wouldn’t believe it if I hadn’t been there to witness it myself.
Post # 13
@jb20: I don’t mind potlucks, but they are supposed to be fun- the arguing would kill it for me. Once a month is kind of a bit much!
Post # 14
@jb20: If its with a group of friends then I don’t mind. But if I feel like I have to do something or I’m obligated to do something (at work, with friends, or with family) then I would probably react the same way as you. I like doing things out of the goodness of my heart, not because someone told me I have to.
I love my co-workers, I honestly do. We’re a family run Company of about 60 or 70 people. We treat one another like family, so having a party isn’t a problem for me there. I don’t mind bringing in food occasionally either, but everyone randomly brings food in at some point – we really like to eat and feed one another and we don’t need a party as an excuse to do it. Lol!
Secret Santa is optional, so I was able to opt out this year. And contributing money for gifts for the President, VP, and Founder are supposed to be optional, but they don’t always feel that way – that’s the only time I have an issue with things.
Post # 15
Here’s one little snip of a story so you can get the gist of why I hate them:
We had this girl who put in her notice and was supposed to “host” the potluck (set up day/basic menu). She chose not to (she was leaving, duh). My boss literally said to her “YOU said you would do it (mind you, she said she would like 4 months prior to this) and you aren’t following through on your obligation. Now we aren’t having any potluck. I’m disappointed.”
Yeah, the place I work is nuts.
Post # 16
I’ve never heard of this! Potlucks, yes, but not in a work context. Definitely not in a ‘regularly scheduled’ work context. I do not socialise with collegues. That’s not because I assume they’re not good people. I wouldn’t know. But there is work life and there is social life. Never the twain shall meet. Non-overlapping magisteria. Keeps my work-life balance (aka sanity) in check.
I would actually feel very uncomfortable and rather manipulated if it didn’t seem like I had an ‘out’ from the event you describe. Fine for folks who want to do it, but seriously. Is greenbean casserole skills in your job description? It just seems (okay, to me at least) a bit unprofessional. It’s a place of business, not a barn-raising. This is groovy if it’s others’ cup of tea. Just don’t make me drink it!
Six more weeks, six more weeks, six more weeks.