(Closed) Christmas Present for mom who is not well off

posted 5 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: What should I get my mom?
    Grocery Store gift card : (4 votes)
    7 %
    Grocery gift card + something else small : (50 votes)
    88 %
    Just think of something else to get her : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Other idea, I'd like to share below : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    6360 posts
    Bee Keeper

    since she’s your mom and you can afford it (if you indeed can…I’m just assuming) why not the gift card plus something nice that’s fancy/a luxury (what she considers luxurious) for her to enjoy? Not something way over the top, just something nice.

    I know you’re not super-close but unless justified hurt is holding you back… it can feel really good to “share the wealth” a little. Just because. And hopefully she’ll enjoy it too.

    Post # 5
    Member
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I agree with PP! I would get her the gift card to a store… or maybe just a visa gift card? and then something else that she would love to have, but just wouldnt ask for!

    Post # 7
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    3847 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    @joya_aspera:  I agree.

    If it were my mom I would get her a nice luxury type gift that she can enjoy.  A beautiful sweater would be great.  I would also get her a visa gift card or a gift card to a grocery store since that is a practical thing that she needs.  

    Post # 8
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    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Put the grocery store gift card in a card, and buy her some of those fuzzy chenille socks or a robe or something. 

    If she is in a place of need and she’s humble enough to admit that the gift card would be her gift of choice, then it would mean the world to her to receive that.  I think that pairing the gift card with something nice/small makes it a true gift rather than an extension of charity. 

    Post # 10
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    9485 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would get her the grocery store gift card and then get her something else that is nice that she would never spend her money on herself (some nice bath stuff, a robe, a nice sweater, etc).  It sounds like you can afford it, spread the holiday cheer!

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’ve been in that position with my parents.  Get her the gift card if that’s what she wants and needs.  If you’d like to spoil her a little, make a small gift basket and include it.  Don’t get her anything extravagent or she’ll resent you rubbing your wealth in her face or at least feel bad that she could have spent that money on groceries.  A basket of nice-ish (like Bath & Body Works) “spa” stuff would be nice, and include the gift card she asked for in a card. 

    Post # 12
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    14400 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If that’s what she specifically mentioned, I’d give her that and something small.  If she’s really struggling to make ends meet, she may not even really be able to fully appreciate any sort of nice gift she may otherwise love just because she may look at it and just think of how she could have used that money for something else, like food.

    Post # 13
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    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My dad asks for giftcards to stores like that all the time. CVS and stop n shop have been popular requests from him. Don’t feel bad at all! Give your mom something small along with it if you feel iffy, but it’s really just a nifty gift. It’s like asking for a giftcard anywhere else- it saves you the money on stuff you probably would’ve bought anyway!

    Post # 14
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    If she needs groceries, and that’s what she asked for, that would be the gift to get.

    My father gave me a $200 grocery store gift card one year (he just doesn’t ever know what to get anyone that’s personal) and I really appreciated it and used it. It’s a great gift.

    Post # 15
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I can totally understand feeling uncomfortable. My grandma always asks for a grocery store giftcard from my mom, too. Usually to dress  it up a bit she adds something smallish, like a pair of pants or a sweater, or even chocolate. 

    Post # 16
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    188 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @penguinbee:  First off, I just want to give you a virtual *HUG* (@almostmrsj:  too)! I can relate very well to the situation and whenever I think about it for too long, I get pretty depressed. I always thought I was alone in a stupid family situation like that, but I guess I am not. Makes me feel a little better, so thank you for posting. (I’m an engineer too btw!)

    As for the gift, when I read the title and saw the options I first thought NOT a grocery gift card! But then I read your post, and since she asked for it, I think that is exactly what you should get her. I like the suggestion of getting a nice, but not too fancy extra gift like a little Bath&Body Works gift set.

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