(Closed) Christmas sucked!

posted 8 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
Member
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sorry girly.  What did she expect you to do more?

Post # 4
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ugh that’s horrible!  I hate how older people think that you need to spend all your time cooking or having babies to be a woman.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

FH screwed up my brunch by finishing the smoked turkey super early, but I never said a thing, not worth ruining the holiday over something (in the big scheme of life) that is trivial.  Why can’t men be more like this?  Especially since you can’t be a mind reader.

Post # 7
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841 posts
Busy bee

*hugs* all around :). Be happy for good friends and spiked egg nog? ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 8
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759 posts
Busy bee

Aw, I’m sorry!  Some  men seem to think we can read their minds sometimes.  And get pissy when we don’t (can’t).  At least your daughter had a good time, and you are getting drunk so pretty soon you will be feeling good!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I can’t help but notice that you post a lot of complaints about your relationship, maybe more than wedding planning posts even. I do hope that you are not caught up in the wedding and maybe missing some other issues that might be better dealt with in a couples’ outlet, not a wedding planning forum. Sorry about your holiday. Good luck moving forward.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You two should sit down and have a talk about the holidays. They seem to be a sensitive time for everyone because people are very entrenched in their traditions and how they do things. As someone who burst into tears last night because I had been planning “the perfect Christmas Eve dinner like I used to have” and it didn’t turn out, I know! Darling Husband and I have had very clear conversations about how to integrate our traditions and which traditions are most important to us. For example, Darling Husband knows that an important tradition to me is that I always get a bell and an orange in my stocking. While, I know an important tradition in his family is that all the gifts in the stockings are wrapped. We’ve talked about what we like to do and what new traditions we want to start. Maybe you guys could sit down and figure out which traditions you guys want to keep and which you want to start anew!

You didn’t ruin his day by not spending two days in the kitchen. He can do that if he wants to. Besides, he should have talked to you if he felt like there were things he wanted to do/eat that he was feeling might not get done/cooked. If there are traditions that are super important to him he needs to be clear about them. You’re not a mind reader! I’d think a talk is in order. And letting him know that communicating is better than sulking all day.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

awww im sorry hun… yea…. men can be a a bit… spoiled… by the women in their families sometimes… my fi expected things like that too… and on a daily basis (when we first moved in together) he thought that it was normal for the ‘wife’ to do alllll the cooking, cleaning, housework, etc…. um no thats not normal… but thats how he grew up!  its okay… after being with me a few years he now understands that its just not how things will be in OUR family ๐Ÿ™‚ hell come around. ๐Ÿ™‚ oh and a glass (or bottle) of wine always make me feel better lol

Post # 14
Hostess
16191 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Ugh. I am so sorry you had such a bad day. While I agree that it’s good to clear up which traditions are important, maybe this is also a great opportunity to talk about creating your own traditions among your new family! ๐Ÿ™‚

Bless you for making it a great day for your daughter!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

I”m sorry today was overcasted by Mr.Tat’s mood cloud, but at least your getting your drink on. Heres hoping that next year will be better! And at least your daughter had a good day too.

 

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