Post # 1
I don’t even know where to begin. I feel so deflated. I was really hoping for a proposal around Christmas, especially since my SO asked me for my ring size back in October. Since then he has also said things like “I have a lot of errands to run today and they all have to do with you.” And when I questioned him about how much money he was spending lately he said “I have already finished saving for what I had been saving for.”
We are going to my hometown this Christmas, and we have a wonderful trip planned with lots of romantic activities, any of which would be perfect for a proposal. I was almost sure that it would be coming on this trip, especially since he hadn’t asked me what I wanted for Christmas (despite the fact that his Christmas gift has come up numerous times). But this weekend he asked me what I wanted for Christmas. I didn’t even know how to respond. There truly isn’t anything I want except for him to ask the magic question that will give me the gift of us to spending the rest of our lives together. The thing that makes me feel the most defeated about a Christmas proposal is that I found out he is getting me an iPad 3. I just don’t think that he would get me such an expensive gift if he was giving me a ring too. **Sigh**
I don’t really have much else to say. I just needed to vent and there isn’t anyone else I can talk to about this.
Post # 3
@Wannabee Mrs.G.: I think you are reading too much into it. Give it time. A lot of guys feel overwhelmed proposing around Christmas. If hes already asked you for your ring size, I would just wait it out…And maybe hes just throwing you off the trail.
Post # 4
Christmas is a month away! Give the guy a chance to come through for you.
Post # 5
“maybe hes just throwing you off the trail”
Maybe he saved up for both to throw you off, I mean what would your ring size have to do with an ipad 3?
Post # 6
Unless you’ve actually seen the iPad, I wouldn’t worry just yet.. It’s way too early to be deflated. It also sounds like he’s trying to throw you off.
Post # 7
I agree with the PPs 🙂 don’t lose hope just yet.
Post # 8
Proposal or not, it sounds like you’ve got an amazing trip planned! I know how it feels to think “this trip would be the perfect time!”, and being sure it won’t happen. Look at it this way at best, you’ll get a proposal and your Xmas wish will have come true. At worst, you’ll have still had a romantic trip, and you can brush it off as “proposing on Xmas is so cliche anyways”. Oh, and you’ll have an iPad!
Post # 9
I know how you feel but just be patient a little longer! Even if it doesn’t happen during christmas holiday (which I am feeling it may VERY WELL HAPPEN for you), it will happen in no time for you. And besides, you are getting a proposal with a ring AND an iPad 3 … how awesome is that!???
Post # 10
I do sympathise as I have always had it in the back of my head that maybe my proposal will happen around Christmas, but the closer it gets it looks like it won’t be happening. Like you SO has asked me what I would like, and I really don’t want anything else apart from getting engaged and starting our journey to marriage!
So no advice unfortunately except a lot of ladies on here know exactly what your going through as we are/have been through it too 🙂
Post # 11
In times like this, I try to remind myself of why I love my SO so much that I want to marry him. Try to focus on enjoying those things about being with him. Chances are your blues are affecting your interactions with him. Spend the holidays enjoying each other’s time. Once he does pop the question, you don’t want to look back and regret the time that you spent being down in the dumps when the two of you could have been having a good time.
I’m guilty of it, too! Just enjoy being in love, and the proposal will come in due time. Hope this helps…