(Closed) Church called about ceremony…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

Um, I don’t think this should be your problem. So you booked the church, then they scheduled a memorial service for the same day, and now they’ve put you in a time crunch? This is their mistake, and they need to make it right. They can’t just double book their venue and hang you out to dry. I’d definitely talk to them about the situation. This is not at all how they should be handling things and is incredibly unprofessional.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yikes! At least they can still perform your ceremony, could be worse!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with Mrs Parasol on this one.

Talk to them, you shouldn’t be stressing out over this : this is not your fault, they should try to make it right.

Let us know how it goes.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Ladies, keep in mind that a church is not a business, it is not “customer-oriented” in the same way other venues are. It has a responsibility to *all* the members of its congregation, and memorials are equally as important as other services, including weddings.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

what kind of decorations were u gonna have? an hour is plenty of time to put up pew flowers and alter flowers just make sure everything is in order and have people help out if possible. and tell florist/decorating people this so they know they have to be fast but make sure they deliver the pretty factor —some people rush and it looks bad..

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@emileekay: I’m assuming you are a member of the church? If so, maybe you could talk to the family holding the memorial service and ask if they would be willing to move the service up to an earlier time? (same day but earlier to give you an adequate amount of time) This is probably a long shot but just thought I’d try to help in some way. Good luck!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yikes!

Is there a room where you can keep your flowers and things until you can get into the chapel, and maybe a couple people you can ask to set up? (Fortunately, the church doesn’t usually require as much decoration as the reception location. 🙂 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t think the OP can really complain too much, an hour before your wedding should be plenty of time. Most churches book 2 or 3 ceremonies/funerals in one day to begin with, or have restrictions due to mass times. 

Our church does 2 ceremonies a day, plus has morning mass and evening mass times, so we are limited to how much we can decorate since it all has to be out of the church within a half hour after the service. Keep your decorations simple and have close friends or family plan to setup and remove before and after.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

@emileekay:  Well, if you rented it, this church needs to respect and honor that. While churches may not typically be in the service business, they are providing a service here, especially if they’re taking your money. As I said, I would call them and ask them what they’re going to do about this. It’s their problem, not yours.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You can try to nicely ask if they think the family would mind having extra flowers up on the altar.  But the pew decorations I think will have to wait.  An hour seems like enough time, though.  You don’t need to worry about that, anyway.  Delegate a friend or cousin to make sure everything looks right.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@emileekay:  Gotcha. Well your decor doesn’t look like it will be too time consuming as long as ppl are willing to help. Will the memorial service interfere with plans you might have to take pictures? That would be my concern since most of my pics I am doing before my ceremony. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@emileekay:  While I agree that this would SO stress me out too, here’s what I’d do: 

  • Make sure your florist is there exactly when they should be and explain to them the situation with the time crunch.  Most professional florists have been in the business long enough to have experienced this sort of time constraint
  • Assign at least 2-3 family members or close friends who you trust, are good with decor and will be meticulous about how your decorations are arranged.  This will help take a lot of the stress off knowing that they are helping to make sure everything looks great.
  • Have the decor organized so that upon arrival to the church, friends/family helpers are able to find what they need and knock it out in a hurry.  Also, include a photo like the one above with the decor, so that they know exactly the image that you’re trying to portray, and even write instructions if necessary.

Good luck!!  Our reception venue isn’t allowing us as much time as we’d like to get things set up, and this is the method I’m attempting to use as well.

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