We’re kind of having a church ceremony, and I don’t know if there’s anything like this in your area, but maybe you can find something like the venue we’re using.
Because of family (mostly his), we’re having a church ceremony, but it’s in my hometown, which is really far away from where we live, and the church I grew up in (which my parents very rarely attend) is way way too socially conservative for us, especially about LGBT issues. (We’re a straight couple, but this is important to us.) So, we didn’t really have a church we would naturally get married in.
However, there’s a museum in my hometown that has a “old-time country town” type area, where they’ve brought old buildings from small towns around the state and set them up around a “Main Street” with appropriate displays inside, like a doctor’s office set up like it would have been 100+ years ago, etc. One of the buildings they have is a small country church, which actually used to be an active church back in the day. It’s cute and quaint, seats 75-100, and there are not very many rules about it. There are also other buildings of various sizes on the museum grounds, and we’re having the reception in one of those. Over all, it cost about $1000 to rent the church and the building for the entire Saturday and also time for the rehearsal the night before.
We were living in another country when we reserved the venue, but after we got back to America and visited my hometown, we met with a pastor we got to know through my sister’s boss, who is part of a church where they are pretty liberal on social issues. She is pretty open to different ideas about the ceremony, like music, choosing our own verses, etc., as long as it is a Christian ceremony, she gets to do a homily, and it follows the basic normal wedding order. We’re pretty traditional, though, so the only thing we might change up is to have different music (in my fiancé’s native language) or something. She asks for about $300 including the rehearsal dinner and three meetings (required before the wedding to get to know each other and whatnot).
Anyway if there’s any venue around you that has something like that, maybe you could check it out and have the church feeling without all the rules. Good luck!