(Closed) Church “Fee”

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i didnt have to pay that much, but i was still amazed by the cost of everything.

$100 to reserve our date

$400 for music

$200 for wedding director

stipend for the priest – which is FI’s uncle so ultimately we are paying for his flight – so i didnt include that in our chruch budget but still $700?? the music director essentially makes $200.00 an hour – how do i get a job like that?

 

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

mine is similar to totheislnds (not as much though – we don’t have to pay anything to set the date for instance), i have to ask – are you getting married at a Cathedral or someplace like that? you know, historical significance, gorgeous building, prime location? or are you talking about your everyday parish?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@HisBride2Bee: i think that’s probably why it’s so expensive then – Cathedrals often draw non-patrons wanting to get married there instead of their home parishes. some things to consider – are you registered there? how long have you been going there (over 6 months?)? and do you tithe regularly with marked envelopes? if you can answer yes to all of the above, then what i would do is talk to the wedding coordinator or priest and explain those points. churches are willing to work with people, especially if you are a contributing member of the church. what you are paying is a donation, and if you can’t afford to donate that much when you’re already tithing, then I think they should be able to work with you. yes, churches can perform wedding ceremonies for free, but I don’t think it’s really fair – they still have to heat/cool/electrify the building for that time that you’re using it and you’re also employing the services of multiple people. so, i do think it’s proper to donate to the church for using them for the wedding, but again – if the cost seems high (which to me, it does but again, cathedrals are always more expensive) then if you meet those 3 criteria i mentioned earlier you have a great negotiation point.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Our church is charging $550, so not as much as yours, but it’s a tiny little country church!!!! I thought it would be cheaper.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@HisBride2Bee: that’s nuts, i’d go to the priest directly then with those points. i don’t know your area, but to me, $1,100 is kind of unreasonable when you’ve been there tithing for over 10 years. $500-$750 sounds better to me too.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

$550 for us for the church, $200 stipend for the priest, $200 for the music director (and $100 for her if we decide to use someone else).  I was shocked, too, and mine is a lot cheaper than yours!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@HisBride2Bee: My Fiance and I are going to get married at Cathedrale Marie-Reine du Monde in Montreal. We paid $1,100. We asked another church in Old Montreal…. called Basilica Notre Dame, the fee is $3,500

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

So what Cathedral is it?

And yeah I agree with the PP’s, $1000 is A LOT of money – but they can charge that because it’s a Cathdedral. Also – they might look at it this way, since they have to close it down to the public for a few hours they are losing out on donations from tourists during that time. But still – it’s a little crazy.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am speaking from my own experience, as a former treasurer of a BOD for a Church. Churchs have bills. Yes, they are there to serve it’s congregation, but they can’t do that, if they can’t afford to keep their doors open. Weddings are an extra source of income for a church. Some churchs will waive or reduce church fees for members. The Minister is a paid employee, as is the organist/piano player or music director of the church. A wedding is outside their regular job duties and so they should be compensated for this, for their time. They are giving up a Saturday after all, on their own time. Most churchs are very sizable and heating/air conditioning and lighting a facility, even for one day, is costly. I think most people would be absolutely shocked to see the utility bills a church receives. I know that there were some months where are monthly offerings did not cover the church expenses and it was the one or two weddings we had that kept the church afloat.

If a person absolutely can not afford the wedding fees, offer up something else. I recall a few instances where we had couples offer a trade which benefitted everyone. One couple offered to paint all of our Sunday School classrooms in exchange for their wedding service and use of the reception hall. Another couple, had a cleaning service and offered to deep clean the carpets in the whole church. The board accepted these offers and everyone benefitted.

I don’t know if my explanation helped at all, but I just wanted to provide another viewpoint, as it seems to come up alot. 

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

wow, I’m familiar with that area and am surprised at the price!  

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Our church was $550. That included the organist

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