(Closed) Church fees ~

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

lol! yes, some parishes charge a lot! our church fee was very high, the other fees average about the same, except our priest’s suggested stipend was higher and “optional”. (few opt out of the priest’s stipend.) if it makes you feel better, we had to pay a second church additional fees to prepare us.

ask the coordinator if you can pay the originally quoted stipends. i don’t think this counts as “negotiating” with the church, and it wouldn’t hurt to ask since you seem to be caught in their transition. money is tight for a lot of people. churches try to make up for reduced collections through the revenue from weddings.

we’re in ca too and our engaged encounter cost 250- malibu and santa barbara are up there with the best of them. who’s padding this?

is that nfp class optional? it’s covered in the ee so no one should have to pay extra for that. fishy.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

yeah, those amounts are a little higher than what I have to pay, but your area cost of living might be higher than mine.

I think $300 for the coordinator is a little much, but it sounds reasonable for the talent and time of the organist and cantor. Although I agree with archibee that you can ask to pay what you were originally quoted.

My FOCCUS test was free, so that’s a bummer that you’re being charged for that. I can’t imagine why filling in a scantron would cost $100.

In my diocese there are a couple of options for the Engaged Encounter. You can do the overnight Engaged Encounter, which is pricey because you have to pay for lodging and meals. But we chose to do a one-day thing, so it is only $85. Maybe you could ask your priest if there are any other options.

@archibee- I have to go to an additional NFP class too. Not optional. I think it might be $45 for us.

My overall feelings on church fees is that they aren’t trying to rip you off. Running a church is like running a business. You can’t spend more than you make in a year. You should look at your church’s financial statement and yearly budgets if you are concerned about where your money is going. I’m sure it will make you feel better. It’s not like the priests are just rolling in dough.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

My priest has not yet told us about the fee structure. He does not like to discuss $ and it worries me a bit.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I was shocked when i began to deal with the Catholic Church we are getting married in.  We are having a destination wedding, so this is not our normal parish.  I was always under the impression that you just made donations to the church, priest, alter boys etc.  Boy was i wrong!  When i first called the church to talk about potential dates i was told they would not even discuss dates with us until we gave them a $500 “donation”!  Once we made our “donation” we were then told if we decided to get married at that church it would be another $500 donation to set the date!  We were then told we would need a letter from our parish back home stating that it was ok for us to be married at their church.  When i called up our church they told us they would be happy to do that for a $250 “donation”!  We then needed copies of our Baptism certificates which cost us another $25 each.  Then came time to schedule pre cana classes… $200.  After pre cana classes we are suppose to schedule a meeting with the priest at our church for marriage counseling and were advised that we should tip the priest for that.  On top of all of this, when we received our wedding packet from the church we are to get married in they included a list of people we should tip the day of the wedding!  Not to mention the church says we HAVE to use a specific organist and soloist at $250 each.  We probably would have looked for another Catholic church in the area that didn’t have such strict rules, but there is only one church one the island!  I was really disappointed to find out what a business the Catholic Church has become! 

Post # 8
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Here’s the fees we’re be paying:

Church Fee – $750

Engaged Encounter – $375  (The church sees $0 of this money EE is an independent org.)

Pre-marital Counseling – $200 (The church sees $0 of this money.  This goes to a professional counselor.)

Organist – $100

Cantor – $75

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Archibee – EEs are independently run and the cost will vary from city to city, as the cost of securing a venue/food changes.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yup – my church is EXPENSIVE

Fee – $2000

Pre-Cana – $225

Candles for the church – $250

Music – $250

Total – $2,725

(so far)

 

Post # 11
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i remember reading a thread about a grumpy priests blog and basically he was saying that couples spend $20K+ on weddings and then they balk at a donation to the church for performing their wedding. alot WB’ers thought he was grumpy and out of touch with the times but maybe some churches are a tired of people coming to them to get married and never see them again so they have decided they are a professional organization that should charge accordingly

im not suggesting anyone here is bitching about your fees as your posts above have been non-whiney, just saying if you are spending $$$ on paper and favours and shoes then shouldnt the acutal ceremony and vows rate a high importance in the budget & scheme of things

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Eloping – That makes total sense….funny though..my church is like “no this is not a donation, this is a fee”..haha…It’s fine though – It’s my parish and I would regret going elsewhere.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Eloping – I agree with you.  The things we’re spending money on are totally worth it to me.  For example the Engaged Encounter weekend and the counseling sessions – we actually got stuff out of doing that.  We weren’t just throwing money into a pit.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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