- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
First off, I am a pastor. Today while I was subbing at the front desk of our church for one of my staff on vacation, I was looking at wedding centerpiece ideas. (We have a community center, so I was just checking members in and Saturday mornings are slow.) One of the ladies was on her way into her Zumba class and asked what I was doing. I told her I was working on centerpiece ideas. After the class was over, she came out and said she would do all of the centerpieces for free, I just need to send her a picture of what I want. I just kind of smiled and said, “Wow!” I was so caught off guard. I have a few concerns. 1) That’s a MAJOR amount of money…we’ll have over 20 tables. 2) I don’t know if she actually has the skills to do so. 3) My mom really wanted to be a part of making the centerpieces (though quite honestly, I haven’t been a huge fan of her ideas so far)
I am so honored that there are so many people wanting to help with the wedding, but there are some things I really do want to do myself – or at least mainly by myself. Mom and I are working together on the centerpieces and I think we can come to an agreement. I don’t want to cause any hurt feelings. I believe that yes, the wedding is about my fiance and I, but we’re asking our guests to be a part of our community life! I guess my question is, how do I politely decline some offers without hurting feelings? And, if I’m way out of line, just….help!