- Mrs. Modern Vintage
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
We finally have our date (well we have only been engaged about 2 months, so maybe “finally” is an overstatement)! Haha. I still don’t feel like our date is official, though, because we (or rather just I) had difficulty choosing a church.
Pros: The church I grew up in is only 5 minutes from my parents’ house where I will be getting ready and want to take a bunch of pictures before and after the ceremony. I would be more likely to talk a family friend into letting us use an old car as the car we’d leave in due to proximity. It is a nice church. My fiancé and I went to this church this past summer while I was home every Sunday with my parents, aunt, and grandma. My grandma and aunt love the pastor. I went to school at St. Francis from kindergarten to eighth grade, so it does have nice memories. It would be kind of neat to have a couple pictures on the swings at the playground outside where I played as a little girl. Also, it is air conditioned, so I wouldn’t have to worry about my hair and makeup getting messed up.
Cons: I personally don’t know the priests as well anymore, though, because the ones I grew up with have gone elsewhere and/or passed away. The church is huge; it is basically half of an octagon. It is pretty, but isn’t the church I pictured in my head when I envisioned my wedding day. There is somewhat of a center aisle that is carpeted (so it wouldn’t look as pretty, but I wouldn’t fall at least!) The aisle is pretty short, though. It is not Church B.
Pros: It is the first church my fiancé and I went to together. It goes better with our theme. It has a long, center aisle. It is gorgeous. It is super close to the hotel and reception – we have a lot of people coming from out of town, so they wouldn’t be driving all around trying to find the church and later going in another direction to the reception. The organ sounds amazing there.
Cons: It is $400 more to get married there. I know this sounds crazy but I am a little worried the carpet at the alter will clash with my colors. The carpet at B is burgandy – my colors are a light pink and more of a salmon/melon pink. Church A has pink carpet, though, so that might clash too. I don’t know the priest as well there either. There would probably not be a cool vintage getaway car. It is NOT air-conditioned and our wedding is in July. I am a little more concerned about the amount of time we’d have with pictures. If we got married there we would have a 2pm wedding and the priest told us we would have 30 minutes afterwards for pictures b/c they have other things going on later. Is that enough time for pictures in the church?
So… if we went with Church B, we would hopefully be done by 3 and take pictures in the church until 3:30. It would take us about 20 minutes to drive to my parents… I’ll round to arriving at 4:00, just in case. So, we’d take pictures from 4-4:45 at my parents’ house. Then, we’d go back to the reception place to take pictures from 5:15-5:30ish and then go outside to take city pictures until 6:15. The reception starts at 6. I don’t want to be rushed on our special day. I have heard different things on how much time you should allot for pictures.
I know it is more logical to have it at the church by my parents’ (at least for us, but not our guests)… oh decisions!
So, currently we booked Church B (aka the pretty church). It was actually my Grandma who talked us into getting the date in stone, because she knew that was the church we were leaning toward. She was with us at mass that day and after mass ran up some steps so fast to try to catch the priest, so he could talk to us, that she lost her shoe! Luckily, my fiancé played Prince Charming and helped her out! It was precious!
My fiancé voted for that church, so I went with it. I asked him which church he would be more excited to marry me in. He told me he’d be excited in either, but probably a little more so in St. Bernard’s. A part of me feels super guilty about this decision, since it is not where I grew up. Plus, I know you aren’t supposed to choose a church based on how pretty it is – God is everywhere. Catholics especially don’t think you should choose a church based on how it looks. I will post pictures of the two churches, though. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
P.S. Sorry this is so long!
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