Post # 46
You guys are NOT going to believe this. Future Sister-In-Law just called me and said that she and her guy got engaged today and they’ll be getting married the day before us.
Yeah October 9th, 2015. And, no I am not kidding.
I mean what is she THINKING?!
Post # 47
WOW. This made me tear up, no joke. Im sorry for the loss of a family member, in more ways than one :/
Post # 49
I have three FSILs. One is my brother’s Fiance and we get a long pretty well. Sometimes I get a little annoyed after conversations with her but I think it’s just because we have a 6 year age difference. But I am having her as one of my bridesmaids so I think we get along pretty well. lol
The other two are my FI’s sisters. The one, who is 4 years younger, is fine. We had a rough patch where she was on my phone plan and not paying me.. but we worked it out. She’s stayed over our house a few times when she doesn’t have work and for the most part we get a long really well. She is also closer to her brother than she is to her sister (they have more in common – like to watch hockey, play video games together, etc.)
His other sister I have tried really hard to get a long with. She is 4 years older than me. We have butted heads a lot in the 9.5 years I have been with her brother. I am a very strong willed person and don’t tend to sugarcoat things. She apparently doesn’t like that, yet she will ask me my opinions anyway and later tell people that I’m offensive and should be more sensitive. She has never seen me a real part of the family since we are not yet married. (Engaged for 7.5 years) She has purposesley excluded me from family dinners because I wasn’t family.. yet her boyfriend (now fiance) had to be invited to everything. She backed out of helping with my babyshower because I wanted to have it sooner than she wanted to. (I was due in the first 2 weeks of April and she wanted the the shower after her son’s birthday which is the 2nd to last week in March.) She seems jealous that her sister comes to my house…openinly stating that she thinks we just talk about her behind her back when she is here. Told her mother (FMIL) that I should stop letting her sister come to my house until she gets to hang out with her at her house. She doesn’t come to our house to visit our son (her nephew), she only visits him when he is being babysat by her mother. We ended up picking the same year to get married. (Me in February – 10 year anniversary, and her in September.) She called her mother and said I was ruining her entire year because 2015 was hers. (Now says that she was joking and that I should have known she wasn’t serious.) I was supposed to be a bridesmaid but backed out last month. MY Fiance said it wasn’t worth the stress.
Post # 50
My SIL and I were friends until DH’s mother decided she didn’t like me (when he proposed and she realized I was ‘stealing’ her little boy). It hurt a lot to have someone I truly considered a good friend turn on me but DH says SIL has always fallen lock step with their mother’s wishes. Now I just feel sorry for her because she doesn’t feel she can have her own opinions about things. Mother-In-Law even contributed greatly to SIL’s divorce! We live very far from them and only see them every couple of years so the strain doesn’t really impact our daily lives.
Post # 51
No way!! That’s horrible!
I have 4 Future Sister-In-Law (technically 3 are half), and it’s just weird. One of them lives downstairs from us, and she may be a biy socially awkward? she never says Hi or Good morning, and she’d just walk right past us as if we didn’t exst. Eh, I guess it can be worse..
Post # 52
I really don’t have any actual complaints about my FSILs. The one is much older than my SO, and she has a life of her own. I’ve only met her about ten times in the six years we”ve been together. His younger sister and I were friends before my SO and I even met. We aren’t really close, but we are nice to each other.
I do have one funny story about her. The entire family questions her life choices quite frequently. One time I was working at a grocery store and talking to one of my co-workers. She asked me what my SO’s last name is, and when I told her she asked if he was my FSIL’s brother. I said yes, and asked how she knew her. She said, “oh my boyfriend works with her fiance!” She was 18, just graduating high school, and nobody knew she was engaged LOL. She had been on again off again with this guy for like three years. They will be together for two weeks and then break up for three. It’s happened probably at least 20 times. I think the look on my face when my co-worker said fiance was probably priceless because she went, “oh gosh…I’m guessing you didn’t know she is engaged!” I told my SO, and he asked his mom who flipped out. Obviously things didn’t work out. She left for college a few months later, and they are back to breaking up and getting back together constantly LOL.
Post # 53
Okay ladies, buckle up.
My Fiance and I are getting married this October. Fiance is a twin, so she was always the more responsible “older” sibling (6 whole minutes) whereas Future Sister-In-Law was treated as the younger one who needed more attention at all times. Whenever it is “their” birthday it is treated as FSIL’s birthday. So when my Fiance wants to do something fun on HER BIRHTDAY like a summer concert, or an amusement park, Future Sister-In-Law throws a fit because they have to be together – which means doing what Future Sister-In-Law wants to do.
Future Sister-In-Law is going to be Maid/Matron of Honor on my FI’s side (and I will have my brother as my best man – in a same sex wedding we just make up the rules as we go ;)). My brother lives in Australia so he is not involved at all – not that he would be if he was here! Future Sister-In-Law has taken this to mean that she is running the show.
When shopping for dresses, I had very basic rules, girls can wear whatever they want, it just has to be the same color and fabric. I had stated multiple times that I would prefer no more than two girls in the same style dress so that it didn’t look like a hot mess with everyone in strapless except for one. Well, FOUR girls out of seven “fell in love” with very similarly styled dresses and I decided that it was fine, if that is what everyone was comfortable in it wouldn’t be the end of the world – this is my bride style haha. Later that night I find out from Fiance that Future Sister-In-Law was in the dressing room only letting my FI’s side try on styles that looked like what Future Sister-In-Law had chosen because, as she stated, “I want our side to look better than Storibee’s!” ARE YOU EFFING KIDDING ME??? I could have murdered her right there.
We are paying for our own wedding because we can afford it, but we are allowing FI’s parents to pay for the rehersal dinner and for FI’s dress. Everytime I suggest somewhere for the rehersal dinner all I hear is “well, Future Sister-In-Law doesn’t really like that place, so we can’t.” When did this become her wedding??? Does she get to name our first born, too??
Post # 55
- Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!
I have three. One is out of state, and a problem causer, but we just avoid her like the plague.
One is local, but she’s nuts in the head, has fought (physically) with my Fiance and Mother-In-Law, and has never met our children. So we see her sometimes, but she ignores me. To the point where if I am speaking, she will SPEAK OVER ME, as if I’m not here. It upset me at first, but then I realized what a bullet I was dodging!
The other one is local (and is my BIL’s SO) and she and I used to be close. I found out she talks behind almost everyone’s backs, so I cut our relationship ties. She still comes to events because my Fiance and Brother-In-Law are close, but it’s very up front, only surface deep relationship. I know where I stand and how much to say.
Post # 56
My mil treats me like crap. She loves all the other girlfriends and boyfriends. My fiance and i have told my sister in law many times how she treats me. She is soo brainwashed by the mother though and sticks up for her. Shes in my wedding party because i was forced to have her by my mil. She has blocked me on all social media. Now i cant even be comfortable around my wedding party because I feel like shes just a little spy for his family so they can gossip.
Post # 57
I know this thread is old, but I am a bit frustrated about some recent comments from my SIL, better here than anywhere else! I love hearing everyones SIL stories. Makes me feel like I am not alone!!
We used to be really close friends, but about 18 months ago, I realised that some of her behavious is downright innapropirate and incredibly rude. I am at the stage where I think she has some serious issues that need addressing. A few highlights include…When my SO returned from deployment, she would drop in/organise family events (that I was not invited to) and saw him everyday for the first 3 weeks he was home, yet she would constantly complain that he wasnt spending enough time with her. He’d been in a warzone for 6 months and wanted to spend some alone time with me reconnecting and relaxing. This was according to her unacceptable (she lived with her SO before marriage). She gave him an ultamatim, ‘her’ family or me. Yeah, we got married last year…Every family function I attended in the last 2 years, she will literally do anything, stamp her foot, start and argument or start a dramatic episode, if the focus or attention is not directly on her for more than 10 minutes… At one family dinner, (she arrived late, wearing dirty gym clothes and fell asleep at the table, while refusing to go home to bed) she walked into the kitchen and said really loudly, “no-one eats that, why did you cook it? It’s disgusting.” The host were really taken aback as they had gone to alot of effort to host the family…She uninvited me to her wedding. I only ended up attending as my SO point blank refused to go to her wedding without me… She was very spoilt growing up and she now believes she is entitled to everything, when we refused to sell her our 1 year old not-for-sale $2,000 leather lounge set to her for $200, she complained about it for weeks!!…She came over to OUR house, uninvited, and brought a friend with her to ‘give her a tour’ She barged through my house and said “don’t worry, this is my brothers house so it is practically mine anyway”…That is just the highlights, the little jibe comments that she makes everytime I see her are the ones that I struggle with, it’s like conversing with a pouty 15 year old at the moment.
Post # 58
I’m so glad I’m not alone! Here’s my Future Sister-In-Law from hell list.
1. She pitched a fit on her parents’ 30th Anniversary because she tried to change plans from what her Mom wanted to do to what she thought was better. This led to her storming out of a restaurant thinking that her mom would chase after her, and trying to drag me and Fiance into the fight.
2. She used to invite her friends over to my and FI’s apartment complex to hang out by the pool without our permission. Often times while we were at work, but also when we were home and completely unaware. She screamed at us when we told her she couldn’t anymore.
3. She thinks she’s an event planner, and HAS to plan everything or she gets jealous and her feeling get hurt.
4. She stormed out of a play because I got me, her, and Future Mother-In-Law tickets, but one of them was a row ahead of the other two. This was a college play for a mutual friend, so she ruined the whole groups’ night on my dime.
5. She’s a pathological liar.
6. She turned my bridal shower into a disaster, then tried to blame me and everyone else.
7. She’s tried to exclude Fiance from planning aspects of our wedding, and then insisted that our wedding theme didn’t apply to all aspects of the wedding (conveniently the things she volunteered to do) and called us bride and groomzilla because we said we wanted things to match.
8. We had to twist her arm to get her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress altered. A dress I paid for and alteratons my Fiance paid for. AL she had to do was show up to the shop to get them altered.
I’m anticipating her to have a day-of meltdown, at which point I’m just going to shrug and let her leave.
Post # 59
Mine is not worse than yours but she is definitely ignorant and stupid. We no longer have contact. I tried to be really, REALLY nice but it did no good.
As for my other SIL, meaning my brother’s wife, she got on my nerves too, I would never, EVER talk to or address my husband’s sister the way she was with me, just totally obnoxious – and I didn’t need to know that they had some great sex life, I mean I get that she had only sisters and no brothers but it just seemed to disrespectful of me for her to bring things up. Sadly though she passed away.
Post # 60
Do we have the same SIL?? Bahaha, I can definitely relate to you.