(Closed) City girl moving to the country. ( bit of a vent)

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Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I moved from a city to a smaller town – not exactly in the middle of no where but it is still almost an hour from my family and friends.  I moved out here 4 years ago – and I knew NO ONE!!!  I didn’t know how to get around, didn’t know where anythign was, and hated driving 30+ mins to get to the mall or any other type of store!

My friends bitched about it for a while – saying I lived too far away to visit – yadda yaddda yada!!  Eventually they get over it!!  They come up every few months for dinner and I go down frequently to visit them or we meet half way to go shopping or whatever. 

I’ve made a few friends up by where I live through the wives/girlfriends or the guys my Fiance works with and some of his friends.  I am very picky who I am friends with as I’d rather have a handful of meaningful relationships versus a string of crappy friendships that stress me out. 

You say you refuse to drive down there due to gas, etc – but how can you expect them to make the drive if you aren’t willing to do the same for them?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

For me it was the opposite… my parents live in the country, and a few years ago I moved away to the city to go to college.  Having so much activity and noise around me was a HUGE adjustment for me.  I also find it weird that although I live so close to all my neighbors, I don’t know any of them nearly as well as my parents know their neighbors who live 1/4 mile down the road.

There are a lot of little things I miss about the country; they are things one has to experience to appreciate.  I used to lie on the grass on summer nights and watch all the multitude of stars; you just cannot see that many stars in the city.  We had a great view of a meteor storm one year.  I used to step outside on cold winter mornings and hear nothing but the crunch of my feet in the snow, smell nothing but the ice-fresh air, and see nothing but the pale violet color of the snow in the pre-dawn light.  In the city, winter is just slushy roads.

Yeah, it sucked that my friends preferred to have me drive into the city to them than vice versa.  If I wanted them to visit me, I usually planned a party of some sort.  The commute is one of those things people have to deal with in the country, but at least there’s no traffic!

 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I lived on the river and my friends actually loved coming to visit for dinners.  I was single then, and I would actually switch with them sometimes- stay at their place and they would have a getaway to mine.  People will get over the drive.  I bet you will meet people over time that will be fantastic, and you will have a few meaningful friendships out there.  People tend to really be warm out there ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

Building your house- how great is that?  Darling Husband and I plan to do the same thing.  You must be pretty tough to take the winters!  We are in WI, and it is so much colder than when we lived in the Rockies. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@jen- you just reminded me- I love the quiet of the country too.  And the stars.  And the crickets in WI.  I also love being able to “do anything” outside, and not have anyone see you.  Growing up in the country we would ride our bikes a lot, and have campfires and swim in our pond.  I always had animals to keep me busy too.  And of course, tons of fishing.  All of my friends love to fish, because… hello, what else would I base friendship off of??!!! (half kidding..  ๐Ÿ˜‰  )

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@cbee & @artwyopie:  Yeah what can I say, the Wisconsin countryside can’t be beat.  Building your own house sounds like an awesome project… says the interior decorator enthusiast in me!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I find that moving from the “city” to the “country” made me a little more productive in life as well!!

I used to work 60+ hours at 2 crappy jobs that I hated and never used my college degree.  I was going out to the bars all the time w/ my friends, and not doing anything outdoors (unless it involved an outdoor bar!).  When I moved out here, I took up Mountain bike riding, walks w/ the dog, fishing w/ the Fiance (just tried deep sea fishing for the 1st time the other day!!), and having cookouts/campfires w/ friends.  I found a job that I love – where I work way less for more $$ than I was making w/ 2 jobs combined!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I bet you will learn to love it out there.  I can see how it would be a big adjustment.  Basically, you have to spend a lot of time in the car… In a 4 wheel drive car, nonetheless.  Hopefully you can find lots of outdoor things to do.  The winter is so hard though, sometimes it is literally too cold to go out!  We used to just run from the car to the house- that was it sometimes as far as being outside in the winter.  It was just too cold!  Is there a fun place to go swimming?  You could entice friends out with that… as a kid, I really had to entertain myself, so I would go canoeing, fishing, snowshoeing, I always had horses and cats and dogs. 

In college I moved to the country again because I missed it, and sometimes it was a little lonely until I met a cool girl to hang out with.  Maybe try joining a local club or church or something…

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I hear ya.  Well, you’ve always got the bee!  ๐Ÿ˜‰

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