Post # 1
OK, super nervous about telling our priest that my fiance and I want to get married at city hall to start the green card process…and only to start the process. Our real wedding date is 8/2011. So the question is: Can we do both? Will the catholic priest have an issue with us being married at city hall 1st? Does he really need to sign the marriage liscense? Will he have an issue with us living together, if we decide to do that? Lot’s of questions and no anwers yet. We will ask out priest but he is now in Lourdes at a pilgramage.
Lost on this one…
Post # 4
Hmm..I’m not sure about the city hall part..
I am getting married at church of our savior on 38th and park..our priest knows that we live together (my RCIA teach told him) and we just had to have an extra meeting with the pre-cana teacher who stressed that we should consider living as “brother and sister”…we consider our church pretty conservative but the priest never said anything to us – i think alot of churches are more realistic nowadays and don’t expect people to move out of their apartments..
Post # 5
I agree. It seems like they are more willing to be a little more flexible these days. I think you should just come out and ask. It depends on how conservative it is too.
Post # 6
I’m in NYC and we got married at city hall first. The priest I met said civil weddings are not recognized by the church and recommended us to sleep in seperate rooms up till the wedding. Also he did say that we were “living in sin” and I should go to confession before the next time I receive communion.
I think this might depend on the church? The priest didn’t say he wouldn’t marry us but there was a little frown (very slightly). And he did say if possible one should move out (to live with parents that is) but when I said we’re both from out of town he said it’s fine but just refrain from sexual activities.
So I think that as a priest it’s their duty to say something but I doubt they’d get in the way and make a big deal out of not moving out. Another way is to ask around? Some places may be more conservative than others.
Post # 7
@Lauren, I’m having my pre-cana classes there. I’m excited!
Post # 8
@glonyc21: I honestly can’t see where it would be a big issue since in other parts of the world couples HAVE to have a civil marriage before a church wedding since church weddings aren’t legally recognized by the govt.
Post # 9
Ms. Scarlet – Are you meeting with peter mcfadden? If so its really the easiest pre-cana class ever. He came to your apartmenmt and basically just told us stories of him and his wife for 4 hours ..it was hilarious!! I hear about these weekend pre-cana retreats that are intense..Peter was quite the opposite…we learned alot though!