(Closed) City Hall Marriage, Then Wedding 8 mths Later…

posted 7 years ago in Elopement
Post # 17
1365 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@javababy87:  Aw thank you!  I loved both of my dresses.  I think naysayers are jealous that couples who do it this way get to dress up twice 😉

Our City Hall Wedding was attended by both sets of parents and one other couple (friends of ours.)  We initially didn’t want our parents to come because they had to fly from so far (his from NZ and mine from Canada.)  But it was great that they insisted. 

We told our friends that we were married and why.  When we sent our invites out, we invited people to ‘join us for a celebration of our marriage’/to our ‘wedding celebration.’  Since there was only 6 months between, it didn’t really feel like a renewal (to me) but it was definitely a party (that went on for 3 days.) 

Our city hall day was incredibly special – our parents coming together and meeting, the people watching at City Hall and our lovely dinner after. But the ceremony itself is super short.  Having the chance to say personalized vows in front of all of our loved ones (we had 100 people from 8 different countries) is something I’ll never forget and it was incredibly special. 

Here’s the thing about (a good) marriage – love grows stronger everyday, so when I said those vows to him in front of our friends/family, I loved him even more than the day we actually got married.  I know that’s incredibly cheesy but it’s how I felt.

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@giru618:  LOL (re. the ‘creams my corn’ comment.) I know there’s people here who say “suck it up, it’s the interwebz” (and sometimes I agree) but people who say that a city hall ceremoney ‘invalidates’ the wedding because of etiquette or religious reasons just drive me nuts.  Usually there’s a reason for it, no need to be a royal b**ch about it. 

Post # 18
6109 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@javababy87:  Thank you.  It was an emotional time for sure.  Doubly hard because I lived a plane ride away too.  Try to get lots of photos when you’re together.  Dad let us take tons of photos and he did not complain.  Recording his voice helped me.  Sometimes I go and listen to all his old voicemails.

Your H might want to consider this book:

Conversations with My Father: A Keepsake Journal for Celebrating a Lifetime of Stories



My sister filled it out with dad (I lived out of state so my time with him was shorter).  She recorded a few of the “interviews.”  Yes it’s terribly sad and chokes you up, but I cherish the book that she filled out with dad!

Post # 20
419 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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@canuckandakiwi:  YOUR SHOES! They look almost identical to the ones Carrie wore to her city hall wedding (sex and the city), love your dress as well.

Post # 21
9071 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m so sorry about your father in law.

My husband and I got married in our home in the presence of our parents and later had a big white wedding a few months later.

It was beautiful.

Don’t let anyone try to tell you that you’re not allowed to do this. No one has to walk in your shoes but you, and tell the naysayers to take a long walk off a short pier.

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