Post # 17
Aw thank you! I loved both of my dresses. I think naysayers are jealous that couples who do it this way get to dress up twice 😉
Our City Hall Wedding was attended by both sets of parents and one other couple (friends of ours.) We initially didn’t want our parents to come because they had to fly from so far (his from NZ and mine from Canada.) But it was great that they insisted.
We told our friends that we were married and why. When we sent our invites out, we invited people to ‘join us for a celebration of our marriage’/to our ‘wedding celebration.’ Since there was only 6 months between, it didn’t really feel like a renewal (to me) but it was definitely a party (that went on for 3 days.)
Our city hall day was incredibly special – our parents coming together and meeting, the people watching at City Hall and our lovely dinner after. But the ceremony itself is super short. Having the chance to say personalized vows in front of all of our loved ones (we had 100 people from 8 different countries) is something I’ll never forget and it was incredibly special.
Here’s the thing about (a good) marriage – love grows stronger everyday, so when I said those vows to him in front of our friends/family, I loved him even more than the day we actually got married. I know that’s incredibly cheesy but it’s how I felt.
LOL (re. the ‘creams my corn’ comment.) I know there’s people here who say “suck it up, it’s the interwebz” (and sometimes I agree) but people who say that a city hall ceremoney ‘invalidates’ the wedding because of etiquette or religious reasons just drive me nuts. Usually there’s a reason for it, no need to be a royal b**ch about it.
Post # 18
Thank you. It was an emotional time for sure. Doubly hard because I lived a plane ride away too. Try to get lots of photos when you’re together. Dad let us take tons of photos and he did not complain. Recording his voice helped me. Sometimes I go and listen to all his old voicemails.
Your H might want to consider this book:
Conversations with My Father: A Keepsake Journal for Celebrating a Lifetime of Stories
My sister filled it out with dad (I lived out of state so my time with him was shorter). She recorded a few of the “interviews.” Yes it’s terribly sad and chokes you up, but I cherish the book that she filled out with dad!
Post # 19
Wow that book is a great idea! What a sentimental keepsake for you guys to have. I just ordered it now and I’ll get it by Friday. Maybe I’ll head up to the hospital when I have time on my own and ask him a few questions 🙂 I know (almost) H is going to love it. I just don’t want to see him cry, ugh.
Post # 20
YOUR SHOES! They look almost identical to the ones Carrie wore to her city hall wedding (sex and the city), love your dress as well.
Post # 21
I’m so sorry about your father in law.
My husband and I got married in our home in the presence of our parents and later had a big white wedding a few months later.
It was beautiful.
Don’t let anyone try to tell you that you’re not allowed to do this. No one has to walk in your shoes but you, and tell the naysayers to take a long walk off a short pier.
Post # 22
Thank you! I don’t want to hijack the thread but if you’re curious about the shoes (which are also autographed by Manolo Blahnik), read here. ETA – post #18 specifically http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/our-new-york-city-wedding-art-deco-inspired-pic-heavy#axzz2qi4v3Q3W