- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Sooo, my fi and I have recently dealt with a series of unfortunate events – After planning our entire NYC wedding (all vendors booked), we are having to relocate to Arizona for a number of reasons. We are excited about the move, but not sure how to approach replanning the wedding in AZ. After the move, we don’t expect to have much $$ left over to start replanning a wedding right away. By the time we move we will have been engaged for over a year – and won’t be able to have our wedding until until at least winter of this year or early next year. We are itching to be married…we’ve waited, we’ve planned…neither of us are particular young – I’m 30 – he’s 36….We just want to be married! My fi mentioned that maybe we could go forward with a civil ceremony here in NYC and then we wouldn’t feel so pressured to have a ‘wedding’ wedding until we were capable of doing so and doing it well.
I have some concerns with us – first of all, we have no family here, so it would be just us. I would never want a civil ceremony to take the place of a more formal and spiritual wedding – I definitely DO want a wedding. I typically am one of those people who can’t stand girls who do this – have a civil ceremony for one reason or another – and then want their princess wedding in addition haha – but now I’m starting to sympathize.
I think it might be a good idea for these reasons: I am ready to make that commitment. I could wait..I just feel that this move is a fresh start in alot of ways for us, and it almosts feels right. I want both of us to be taken care of if one of us gets sick and doesn’t have health insurance. I do fear this happening – I’m not sure how quickly each of us will be able to find employment – so it’s a concern if we wait.
What are your thoughts? I know many people feel that having a civil ceremony and a ‘wedding’ later on, is a bunch of crap. I was one of those people! Now, I’m just not sure what to do. Any thoughts? Is this stupid?