(Closed) Claddagh ring used in second marriage

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

Did he have the ring before he got married the first time or was it purchased as his wedding band?

I think I’d be ok with it if it was a ring he’d had long before his first marriage, but if it was bought as his wedding band, I’d find it a little odd to use it again. I’d probably want to get a new claddagh or at least change it in some way.

FWIW, I have a claddagh ring as my engagement/wedding ring and I love the meaning behind it. I think it’s a great idea for him to continue having a claddagh.

Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2006

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connieirizarry :  I understand the sentiment, but I would not be ok with this!  Atleast get a new ring, even if it’s in the same style. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

i think that getting two of the exact same thing because you think one has bad juju is silly. he is the one who will be wearing it. if he is happy with it its probably because he doesn’t associate it with anything bad. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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connieirizarry :  I think it would be worth getting a new one. The ring is symbolic of your union and I just wouldn’t want the same ring from the old marriage to symbolically represent our new marriage. Our marriage is my husband’s second and the ring wasn’t even a thought in our minds. I don’t think he had the old one in his possession. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Personally I wouldn’t want my Fiance to wear a ring that he wore as a wedding band from a previous marriage. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

What kind of a person wears a wedding ring from their previous marriage?  I would understand if the spouse is deceased, but it’s very odd and highly irregular to wear a wedding ring from a relationship that no longer exists. 

A wedding/engagement ring is symbolic of a union. Like literally the first thing people do after a separation or divorce is to stop wearing their wedding/engagement rings. 

If he cares about the style so much, just have the old claddagh ring sold and buy a new one. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Is he just trying to be frugal? Good claddagh rings can be expensive! If that’s the case then buy him a new one as a gift! 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think this is really weird & a bit disrespectful.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

New one. I find it so odd when people reuse rings seems like a constant reminder of  past marriage. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

I have a Claddagh ring, my mum brought it for me for my 18th birthday, and it’s been with me through a few relationships and a permanent fixture on my right hand.

I think if he had the ring before the 1st marriage then it’s fine. But if it was brought as his wedding band then maybe you could both pick out a new Claddagh band?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

Is this man stuck on stupid?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Did he have this ring before he got engaged/married the first time?

Is this specific ring important to him (was it given to him by a special family member or person, was it given to him or bought at an important milestone)?

If the answer to those is yes, I’d be ok with it. If he specifically got it for the first wedding then I wouldn’t be too happy.

Post # 14
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Worker bee

Get him a NEW Claddagh ring!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think that if this is the kind of thing that will piss you off every time you see it on his finger (i.e, every day!) then it is definitely not okay, and he should be able to understand why it bothers you!

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