(Closed) Clarification for +1’s please

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t go by any rule that certain people must be given +1s. It’s your wedding and you have every right to extend an invitation to people you want there in honor of you and your Fiance. Do what you want on your day! I’m sure its fine since you are giving dates to bridal party and people in long term relationships. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Eh… this is a hard one. 

I think if you’re going to extend +1s to people outside of your bridal party, you probably need to do it for everyone.

How do you decide which relationships are “long-term” enough? I see this being an issue that will make for awkwardness for you. For instance, if you’re going to invite your cousin’s boyfriend she’s been seeing for eight months, you kind of have to invite your friend who’s been seeing a guy for five months, etc. 

It’s ultimately up to you, but personally I would extend a “+1” to everyone if it’s within your budget and venue limitations.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Pupperoni: Yeah, I don’t think so. You’d be super pissed if you were invited to a wedding without your Fiance, and you would have every right to feel that way. It’s rude to only invite half of a couple.

I extended +1s to the bridal party and everyone in a relationship, whether they’ve been seeing eachother for weeks or years. I had to do a bit of extra work to find out if some not so close relatives were seeing anyone or not, but to me it was worth it to include everyone and be a good host. Also nice to find out their names if possible instead of just writing ‘and guest’.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I have a HUGE family and our total invites are 347 people! So needless to say, not everyone is getting a plus one. I think you should give it to bridal party and people you know are in relationships. I, for one, can’t afford for people to just bring a date cause their invitation said +1.  Hopefully, people will understand that.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m giving plus ones to: long term relationships, ‘singles’ who have to travel and to people who do not know anyone else at the wedding.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

The etiquette is different for everyone on this. The lines are no longer clear about plus ones. But IMO, you should extend plus ones to everyone who is in a relationship in the very least. Not just the people in your wedding party. But when it comes down to it… people are going to bring a date either way unless you are very vocal about them NOT bringing one. Most people, even if they’re not in a relationship, want/expect to bring a date to a wedding. So to cut out the headaches, I would just give everyone a plus one if I were you.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I chose to give everyone a +1 but it’s not required.  I think it’s nice to give +1’s to anyone in a long-term relationship and anyone who might not know anyone else at the wedding.  

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

I actually just asked the people who weren’t married if they had a gf/bf they wanted to bring, but that we weren’t doing +1 random dates. That way I actually had a name on the RSVP card. I had a lot of friends say to just invite them solo. I don’t think there’s any reason to have a single person person bring a “date” to a wedding when the date doesn’t even know the couple getting married, but if someone is seeing a personal regularly, I think that’s fine. That was my reasoning since I have a lot of friends with long-time bfs/gfs.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Wonderstruck:  I never said you invite half of a couple. I meant the OP is golden with couples because she said she was already inviting people in long term relationships. Therefore, someone with a Fiance would be included. 

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