(Closed) class act

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

euwwww

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

wow that’s so rude. I would definitely be upset too! I understand everyone has a right to spend their own money on whatever they want, but if your best friend asks you to be in their wedding, you dont say no and go on a different trip instead. Not cool!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

What the hey!  Why are people so hurtful?  Undecided

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i’m mostly upset by the lie

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Mrs.Williams: Wow! Why didn’t they just tell you they had plans in the first place!? I’m a bitch so I would be like “Wow! I hope the plane tickets to Spain were cheaper than the ones to CT! har har har.” ^_^

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t forget that flights from Britain to Spain are uber cheap compared to coming to the US.

Maybe they really can’t afford to come to the wedding?

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Miss Tattoo: that is EXACTLY what I would have done =)

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wouldn’t tickets to Spain actually be cheaper for someone in England, compared to a trans-Atlantic flight to your US wedding? I think that’s kind of a legitimate argument.

I am sorry you are going through this, though we say it over and over around here — our weddings are not as important to anyone else as they are to us. I doubt they are intentionally trying to hurt you, and hey, if I were going on vacation, I’d probably tell Facebook. It’s not like they should completely censor their lives to tiptoe around you. Also, if the tickets to your wedding were too expensive, they wouldn’t have had plans for August, so why SHOULDN’T they go on vacation if they can afford it? Not being able to afford going to your wedding is not the same as not being able to afford to go anywhere. They shouldn’t be expected to do nothing or fear hurting you. I think your Fiance should take a deep breath about the state of his friendship, and you guys should probably talk about it before grudges develop. Give them the benefit of the doubt, and if they did intentionally deceive you about their vacation plans, that’s up to you to decide whether the friendship is worth forgiving them. But who knows, it may be closer to the alternate scenario that I suggested, and then, no one is really doing anything wrong or worth warring over.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I hate that 🙁

I’ve had friends that have told me one thing, and then done another. I mean, it seems like if they really couldn’t afford certain aspects of the wedding that they would at least talk to you about it first, letting you and your Fiance know that they have some money, but maybe not necessarily enough for the wedding. I’m not sure…but only you guys know your friendship and who they really are. I completely understand how it upset you guys though. I would feel the same way. I would feel betrayed, but maybe you guys should talk. Have your Fiance call him and tell him that he saw his GF’s FB status update and that he’s hurt that he couldn’t afford to come to their wedding, but yet they can afford to go on a vacation.

I hope that it all gets worked out between your friends. But regardless – everything happens for a reason and it will ALWAYS work out in the end.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I’de be absolutely pissed if I saw that. I’de probably do just what MissTattoo suggested but I’m snarky like that.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Lees4308: I have to respectfully disagree with this part: “letting you and your Fiance know that they have some money, but maybe not necessarily enough for the wedding.”

A wedding is not an excuse to pry into your friends’ finances. They said they couldn’t afford it; it’s not up to the bride to decide if they could or should have or what else they can afford. It’s no one’s business but the friends if they have “some money.” I think it’s already assumed that they have “some money” or they wouldn’t have been expected to go to the wedding in the first place; the exact definition of “some money” should be irrelevant.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

While everyone has the right to spend their money the way they choose.. its unfair for them to be sneaky about that. I know our weddings are more important to us than anyone else, but you’d think the people we’re closest to would want to be there for us, even if it means not going to spain until next year… i would definitely be upset

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Amaryllis: I was just saying that they should have been honest from the beginning. 

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